My friend is pregnant with her second child. She and her husband already have a son. They found out their second child is a girl and the husband is in denial about it. He doesn’t want to think about it cuz he’s bummed. He said he grew up with several brothers and it was so fun and he just never imagined having anything but sons. He thinks girls will just be high maintenance with pink dresses and bows in their hair. How did you feel when you found out you were having a girl?
Men with daughters, how did you feel when you first found out you were having a girl?
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Ecstatic. I have two girls. Only found out beforehand on the second but I tell ya, I was pumped. To honestly give a shit about the sex of your kid shows some pretty low moral character.
Girls will be whatever they want. It’s up to the parents. I have one who loves accessories and another that will run through a damn wall with a truck in her hand.
Real men raise girls. And boys. Tell him to stop being a p*ssy (I get the irony)
Elated. My wife and I already had a son, so now we’d have a whole new vibe in the house.
Men who become dissapointed by having daughters are scum, plain and simple
Our first was a boy… All boy. Played ice hockey, Legos, star wars, etc. Good kid. 7 and a half years later #2 comes along and it’s a girl. Super ecstatic as I have NO idea what I’m in for. While #1 was a decent mix of us both, the girl is basically me with a vagina, except cute like her mom. She’s 15 now and it’s funny how we have connected on many levels. She has certain conversations when mom, and some with me, with some overlap. It’s a nice space. My brain inside of this girl is really interesting and it’s fun watching her figure stuff out, but she hates that I can anticipate her…
Have fun!
The more I hear about people raising sons the more thankful I am that we have two daughters.
Though I must say I worry about them more than I think I would about sons.
I’m a father to one son (the eldest) and three daughters. I was excited to have girls because on my wife’s side, she has 5 nephews and 1 niece. It’s so weird to me to think any less having a daughter than a son. I wouldn’t change a thing.
My daughter is due end September and I am ecstatic. I have a 2yo son as well.
Have 2 brothers, and always wanted a sister.
Relieved I wouldnt have to think of her name.
My wife and I had a deal boy I came up with name ideas. Girl, she would. We still discussed them and tweaked them etc. But the task of coming up with some was preset.
After that I did get concerned. Rather than having to worry about 1 dick ( my son’s ) I now had to worry about all of the dicks ( the guys trying to get into her pants ). However after all that it was for naught. My daughter prefers the fairer sex.
One side note. I was in complete denial that wife was preggers in the first place until she started showing.
Now 17 years later I have one of the best kids one could ask for and could not be prouder of the young lady she has become… though her maths scores could do with a little work.
Relieved honestly, it was what both my wife and I were hoping for.
Yeah, there are a lot of pink dresses and bows… and swords. I, somewhere along the line, promised my daughter her first sword for her 10th birthday and she hasn’t forgotten. She loves to play sports, which were never my thing. She roughhouses, enjoys the outdoors more than her tablet and will play outside anytime it is possible. She’ll turn a wrench with me when working on our car or building something.
Daughters are amazing.
I was ecstatic, I grew up with a brother and always wanted to be a girl dad. Hopefully he will get over it, that girl will probably have daddy wrapped around her little finger before she can talk.
We had a son already so we really wanted our 2nd to be a girl. Everything she does melts my heart. She’s going to have me in the palm of her hands my whole life. I love being a girl dad.
Here’s hoping he’ll change his tune once the baby arrives
What’s funny is that in my experience, usually daughters take after their dads more than their mothers
Sucks to see gender as an obstacle when it’s not necessarily going to be that
I loved it. I have two daughters. I love being a girl dad. I never wanted boys and luckily it turned out well for me.
I’m not a dad but I’m an uncle and a godfather. When my niece was born I immediately wanted to protect her from boys because I’m a former boy and know what boys are like.
I feel like this is a “my dad didn’t want a dog but now they’re inseparable” scenario.
He’s going to be a horrible father to specifically her if that’s the mentality he’s going into this as
I pray for your friend and their son & daughter. This is a horrible way to react to having a child no matter the gender. I understand gender disappointment, but he is resentful over the fact that he has a daughter on the way. A daughter who will think he hangs the moon, and he doesn’t even realize it.
Just want a healthy baby.
Ecstatic
That poor girl getting stuck with a sperm donor like that. Please be a good aunt or uncle for that child, they’re gonna need the support.
I think he shouldn’t have any children…
I never cared about the gender of my children.
My wife asked me what I wanted. I said I wanted a girl. And we did. She is a tomboy (that is what you call it right) and more one of the guys, but it is so much fun. I am not into soccer or anything, but I still do that with her. She loves to game with me, which is fun too. She is really a daddies girl and loves to be with me.
She is a handful, I can tell you that.
My wife did ask how I would feel if it would have been a boy. I answered that I would be equally happy.
But you wanted a girl? Yes, but that does not mean I would not have been as happy. Sigh, dont ask questions of you dont want an answer.
For us, we did kind of hope for a boy, but when we found out our first would be a girl, I can’t really say there was any disappointment at all. To me, the news of the gender didn’t disappoint or excite me, it just suddenly made the whole thing seem more real all of a sudden.
And then things were going so well with our daughter, I was kind of hoping number 2 would be a girl as well, and then found out it was a boy. Both are amazing.
The same as when my son was born. Kids are kids, they grow in to their own personality as you raise them, why would i feel different about it? I do fun stuff with my son, and i do fun stuff with my daughter. They have different preferences. My son(14) prefers to go out, and try to find food he doesn’t know yet to get a new experience. My daughter (9), loves to go out, and find plushies, but they’re rated like she’s a youtube reviewer. it’s all good fun, we have a good time.
Not really my own story but my friends sister was pregnant. Now, my friend is a truly feminine woman and she was hoping the baby will be a girl. Turns out it was a boy. She was so disappointed because she imagined doing her makeup when she’s older, buying her cute outfits etc. FF when the baby arrived she fell in love with the boy and now says she doesn’t know why she was so disappointed when what matters is the baby is healthy and not if it’s a girl or a boy. Her sister had another boy soon so now she’s a proud aunt of two boys.
What I want to say is it doesn’t matter. Sometimes we think we are disappointed but turns out when we see that little one we fall in love and that’s it, it all switches. I wouldn’t care much for what is said before the baby is born, that man isn’t necessarily a scum, he just might not know what he’s missing out on.
I have two daughters and a son, their gender makes absolutely no difference to how much I love them. That’s a bit of a weird concept.
That guy is gross as hell. My daughter does everything a boy does, and my son does everything a girl does. When they are young, every thing is a toy and it’s fun. When they grow up, they’ll find things they truly enjoy and mold their personalities, whether it’s feminine or masculine.
What if his son grows up trans? You know damn well that guy is gonna kill him or disown him. Which shows he’s a shit person no matter if he gets a son or a daughter
I was absolutely elated. I was hoping for a girl and when we got the scans done and found out we were having a girl I was over the moon. She’s awesome and I couldn’t be happier. She’s not any higher maintenance than any other toddler. Yeah, she likes a frilly dress and a bow hair clip, but if that’s his bar for high maintenance then he’s in for a rude shock. That’s normal toddler shit and it doesn’t interfere with any activity you’d want to do with a kid. Sounds like this kid is in for a shit relationship with her father unless he pulls his head out of his arse and accepts that having a child regardless of gender is going to be as rewarding as you’re willing to make it. Put the effort in and you’ll have a great time. If he neglects her purely because she’s a girl then he’s the one creating his own future problems, not her.
very happy because I didn’t want more kids and I know the pressure would be way higher if we had a second son because my wife had such a strong preference. I wish my kids didn’t fight so much that might have happened with two boys too
Your friend’s husband should have been aware that when somebody has a kid, it’s a 50/50 shot of having a boy or girl. Very weird that he never imagined a daughter.
Personally, I’ve never had kids. I’d be happy to have a kid someday. But to be honest, I would see it as a bonus if it was a boy. Men want to have boys, o=women want to have girls. But once the baby arrives, you love it no matter what it is.
Hah!
The last dad I heard telling me how he wished he got a boy instead changed his tune right after the baby was born. Once he looked into her beautiful eyes, and pulls on his beard, his protective instincts will kick in and the daughter will have him around her little finger.
Next thing you know, she’s doing his nails, putting lipstick on him and sitting with her soft toys in her tea party!
WARN HIM BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE!!
Your friends husband is dumb. I’d say I had the same reaction to the news as if I found out it was a boy. I’ve got two girls. While I did think about all the things that normally happen down the road, like BFs, prom, marriage, grandkids, etc….. I don’t think my reaction would be different.
BTW, having a girl doesn’t mean they can’t try again for another boy. This guy just sounds like he’s acting dumb.