Why do people think past flings mean disloyalty? Plenty enjoy their single life but stay fully committed in relationships.Just because someone had fun while single doesn’t mean they can’t be a devoted partner.
Anyone else feel the same?
Does a man’s past define his ability to be loyal, or can he choose devotion? Share your thoughts!
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I don’t think this a misconception unique to men. Women may even get more scrutiny on their past.
But all humans have the ability to change. I’m not the same person I was 10 years ago, I want different things, value different things, we all change.
People often have a binary vision of other people and see contradictions everywhere, I have no other explanation
I was giving my son dating advice and my wife said “Don’t listen to your dad he was a whore in high school.” It was in a light-hearted sense. Son says “Why are you with him?!”
She replied “Well, he’s not anymore obviously.”
So many of these unpopular opinions are just a sentence stating the bleeding obvious
Why do you keep reposting this? This is probably the 4th time I’ve seen this exact post.
You’ve fallen into the trap of a zero sum argument. No-one says someone who had past flings cannot be a devoted partner, of course they can, however past behaviour IS a strong indicator of possible future behaviour. i.e. it makes it more likely (you can argue how HOW much more likely until the cows come home, but assume a conservative 10% more likely, that is still a notable risk increase).