So I had a realization recently that in all my years of dating, I have never come across a nice, single, heterosexual man whose home was both tidy and well-appointed. All the men whose homes I’ve been to seem to fall under the following categories:
- Nice guy, tidy apartment, sparse/shabby furnishings, not comfortable overall
- Nice guy, filthy place
- Nice place, tidy, nicely furnished, but the guy turns out to be Patrick Bateman, or
- Nice guy, clean, cute, comfortable place, he has a secret girlfriend who is out of town
Before anyone calls me shallow or materialistic—I’m not expecting perfection or for his place to look like the Ritz-Carlton. I just mean, a kitchen table, a couch, a cozy blanket or throw pillow, a bed frame, a couple pieces of art on the wall. Hand soap and towel in the bathroom! Basic stuff!
Anyway, what’s your experience? Have you ever met the elusive nice guy who also has a nice apartment? Do I just have a long history of dating bums and dirtbags?! Haha. (Also please don’t get upset it’s not that serious and it’s not unreasonable to want a man to have a liveable space).