Title mostly says it all. We dated for 3 years then married. I have 4 kids; with our one biological daughter thrown in the mix.
Met my future wife when I was 19, she 28 with 3 kids. Been married for 30+ years. AMA
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Title mostly says it all. We dated for 3 years then married. I have 4 kids; with our one biological daughter thrown in the mix.
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How did you meet?
30 years of anything deserves a tip of the hat too ya both.
How would your wife feel if one of her kids started dating a 28 year old at 19?
Totally random and its OK if you don’t want to share but was bio dad in picture?
How did the kids like you at first? Was it hard to parent them so young? Did they always respect you?
I saw that you mentioned working at Pizza Hut, but how was the transition from a minimum wage job to whatever career path happened after? In a sense, were you more motivated to climb higher because you found a wife or did it occur naturally, or did it even occur at all (if youre still at Pizza Hut)?
Did you smash
How old were you when you became an empty nester?
What did your parents, other family members and friends think about this relationship in the beginning? How did that change over time?
You’ve been married for 30 years now, so you know what being with somebody for that long is actually like. I’m 50 now, and I am really clear about what it takes to be together for a really long time. I’ve had friends that weathered mutual infidelity, and nobody knows about that. I have friends that have not had sex for years, and nobody really knows about that. I know people that have fallen out of love but choose to be together because they can’t survive with out each other financially, and nobody knows about that.
However, when their kids, other friends, and family members, toast them at events; the theme is always ” we hope to be like you”, ” we want what you have”, etc. This really bothers me, because nobody talks about the other stuff, the real stuff, so then you have everybody else applauding them for having this great marriage, without the other context. I think that’s harmful to others, because that couple, is like an Instagram couple, everybody sees the Mirage but not the real stuff.
So my question to you is, are you open about the real stuff? Do you tell your kids about your real stuff? Or maybe you do have that one in million marriage that is phenomenal?