Mexican gf can’t enter Canada with no date in sight of when that can change. Stay together or walk away?

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I’ll try to keep this brief. I am 33M from Canada. 4 years ago I matched (tinder) with a Mexican girl while living down there for the winter. Due to finances and her home city being far from where I was staying, we never met despire connecting virtually.

Last December I reached out and we began talking nonstop. I went down to her city and lived with her for 2 months. Things with her were great.

I came back to Canada and assumed her visa would come quickly. It was rejected due to Canada not taking Mexicans in even for a one week travel visa. The reason being, like most of them being rejected, that there was not sufficient evidence she would return to Mexico.

She applied again and finally after 3.5 months she got rejected again.

We of course talk everyday but it’s not the same over the phone as I’m very much a physical person.

I don’t want to sound conceded, but on the “dating market” I have options. But I really like this one. The challenge is now I don’t know if this can work long distance and if I did decide to take a week off every month to go see her in Mexico, other aspects of my life would be sacrificed.

I want to be a family man. I want a dog. Kids. White picket fence.

Before anyone asks, I have reached out to a couple immigration lawyers but from what I’ve read we need to have been together for at least a year before we can even entertain starting this process. And results don’t come quick.

Here’s my question: wtf do I do here? Please, Reddit, give me some advice.

TLDR: after spending 2 great months together, I left Mexico and she can’t come to Canada. Do you fight through long distance to eventually reunite or part ways?

Comments

  1. Those_Lingerers Avatar

    Sometimes it just isn’t meant to be. Move forward with your life and maybe in the future the stars will align and you can see each other again. Don’t waste years trying to love someone through a screen.

  2. SudoDarkKnight Avatar

    Options if you wish to remain together:

    Get married.

    If she can, have her look into working holiday visa.

    Otherwise she has to come here for schooling which will only last X years (though if you get married during that period that goes back to the first option).

    That’s about it?

  3. tleb Avatar

    Move on, or move to Mexico.

    Depending on political climate, it may get even harder for her to get in.

  4. Ramekink Avatar

    Sorry hon, not try to be a hater but it’s seems like it’s not worth the trouble.