This is an odd one but I’m hoping some can give me some insight.
I’m writing a Chicano character raised Catholic partly in Mexico and California who towards the middle end of the story proposes to the main character.
I thought the scene was sweet because he talks with the main character about how his parents met (his mother is on the ofrenda and his father was deported a few years earlier and he hasn’t seen him since) during a celebration away from his family at home for wider character/story reasons, and then mentions how they were in love but never got married and how he wants to.
But would this be considered rude, taboo, insensitive or just plain not something that would happen? Any comments are appreciated!
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Because then we might have the Mexican corpse bride
Actually that movie was pretty good I wouldn’t mind a Mexican version I just hope it’s made by gear Elmo del Toro
Not inappropriate but definitely lame/weird to read a character with so many cheap stereotypes
No, nobody cares about this. Just a weird obsession you usually have about ofending someone, that’s actually offensive.
Enough with the stereotypes …
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The whole thing sounds weird to me, but not offensive, especially if you think it’s in character.
I think a Chicano would do it.
I think a Mexican would wait for some other day.
Idk, dia de muertos is just a regular day for me
Chicano isn’t Mexican. It’s a strictly American subculture by specific people of Mexican ancestry.
I mean, not necessarily, I wouldn’t say it can never happen, but it may be odd, especially if they are religious/raised Catholic (Día de Muertos is basically the Catholic celebration of All Saint’s Day but with a Mesoamerican coat of paint on top).
I am from Northern Mexico, where the tradition is the weakest outside of the government-mandated altar (the ofrendas are the offerings one puts in the altar) at public buildings to some historical/cultural figure, and even then I’ve never heard of anyone proposing on that day.
If I may be as bold as to suggest something, maybe you can have your character conclude on Día de Muertos, while reflecting on his parents, that he wants to marry this main character of yours, and so he goes to find a ring or something and the actual proposal happens a day or two later? Idk.
TL;DR: I don’t think it will be an actual taboo, but I’ve never heard of it happening. This day is about nostalgia and memory, and there’s some inherent sadness associated with those that have passed before us. Maybe that works for your story, maybe not. Idk.
Would be offensive that a redneck propose in July 4th ? Xd I think this may be common xd of course with a lot of flags and fireworks and guns and school shooting in the background
Weird but it’s a fictional story. Write it in and see if it holds together well
Depends, is it in a happy day of the death party/celebration and between people that are not mourning any fallen? Then not weird or inappropiate, but kinda generic (unless it is between goths, which would make it a fire date to propose)
It would be kinda weird to propose while the other person is sad and mourning a dear diseased person, like, dont make that day about yourself if you see she has someone else in mind, read the vibe, otherwise is cool