Kind of a weird question, I know, but what are some of the ways (big and small) that you show love to your spouse at this stage? “This stage” being some or all of the following: Married for 10+ years, kid(s), 40s, both working full time, busy all the time, etc etc etc.
Mid-life married men, how do you treat your wife at this stage of life?
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It’s difficult. Life is so damn busy that romance takes a back seat. If you have kids, that alone is almost a full-time job. It gets better once the kids have flown the coop.
Clean the kitchen if I have a free moment.
Say thank you after she makes dinner.
Freedom to see her friends or do some hobbies and not have to be mom 24/7.
Lots of hugs and kisses when possible
Write a poem. Doesn’t even have to be “good”
Tell her she is hot. Do it at random. Don’t expect something afterward. Just tell her she is hot.
Find a hobby thats fun you both enjoy (for us its kayaking)
Hug and kiss when I get home, massages, physical touch (nonsexual), appreciating the things she does, asking how her day went, listening without judging or trying to fix her situation, asking permission before making suggestions, taking the kid from her to give her a break for a while, shared activities after the kid is asleep, and tons of teasing in between all those things that drives her wild and puts her in the mood when daughter is sleeping…AFTER we do an activity together that is nonsexual.
Every night, she wants to snuggle, which means she wants to lay on me and get her back scratched, head scratched, and neck rubbed so she can go to sleep. I do it every night, even when I’m exhausted or just don’t want to do it because I love her.