I honestly don’t even know what to say. This was just supposed to be one of the happiest time in for me and my wife because we just brought home our newborn. It was supposed to be bonding time but now even 5 mins after we made it home. My wife fam was there I didn’t want them there but it helps with my wife Postpartum which is going horribly.
I 29 M got assaulted by my MIL And I don’t know what to do long story short Wife and my mother mother-in-law does not have the best relationship. It has been on and off my MIL is a narcissistic sociopath. to make everything about her or what she done or what she wants everything allows about her. the only reason I tolerated it is because I love my wife. We made an agreement that no matter what our families are going through. It will affect our relationship. so I keep be casual. the stories of my wife, telling me how my MIL beat on her for no reason. kick her out multiple times because she wasn’t following her rules. even as a grown adult at 22. She was trying to give her a curfew to come back home. But turn around and go on a prostitute bender for a weekend and go completely and freak everyone out. but I could go on and on about all the stories but anyway. My wife needed to use the restroom so she hands me the baby I’m still a complete novice at this but enjoying every second of it but while I was holding her she started to get fussy and I sat her down to check her diaper. While this is going on my MIL AND GMIL sat there and did nothing nor offer any help which I didn’t need I want to prove I can take care of my daughter ( because of my own pass trauma) so anyway while my wife was using the bathroom, she asked me for help my baby was in a moving changing table, so I wrote her to the bathroom. My mother-in-law took offense to that and went off on me for helping and being stupid. My wife went off on her for talking to me like that and then my wife started screaming. Tell her just to stop. I turned to hug my wife and that’s when she punched me in the back of the head, I turned around, backed up, and I went to go grab my metal baseball bat her cause she went up on my wife and she tried to push her so as I came up, she went full force and tried to sock me and hit the wall. I told her to get out of my house and I went to comfort my wife and I started ignoring her, but she kept beating me over and over and throwing things at me, but I kept comforting my wife when my wife is screaming and bleeding from her legs after I finally got it out of my house I locked the door and me and my wife broke down with my GMIL AND HONESTY I DON’T KNOW. SORRY FOR THE LONG RANT. I JUST NEEDED TO VENT. Also, sorry if this is all of the place, I had to get really high to forget. Because I want to press charges but I know it will destroy my wife family.
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Press charges and try to get a restraining order. Next time, she could attack one of you when you’re holding your baby.
Press charges, no excuses. If you don’t – and you know she has a history of violence – she absolutely will see that as the green flag to hurt whomever she chooses as much as she wants.
Please.
I’m gonna be really honest. Anything less than pressing charges here is a mistake on your part. You can have whatever beliefs you want on family but if you think for one second that anything you say to her is going to make her change, you’re doing a serious disservice to yourself, your wife and your new family.
Cut the cord or not but when people feel comfortable enough to not be ashamed of getting physical, there’s never a follow up that they become self aware and stop. The unhinged behavior typically gets worse. Set the standard and tone that you won’t tolerate this and get police involved. If not I fear you’re going to live a life in the sidelines forever or end up separated if wife can’t come to a consensus on this. Either way there’s a child to now consider. Everything they see, they learn. Don’t teach them this is normal behavior or that abuse is ok if it comes from family.
In no scenario is this normal or healthy or okay. You should call the police and make a report at the very least.
You are under-reacting probably due to past trauma. Did you also grow up in an abusive household? Keep your child away from that crazy person.
Does your wife want to press charges? Or protect her mother? She needs deep therapy if it’s the second one.
Press charges before she kills your kid dude
You are a father and a husband now. Shine up your spine and press charges on that lunatic. You cannot seriously be wanting to keep that woman near your new baby. It doesn’t matter who she is, she just attacked you in front of your wife and child. Man up and protect your family. Is this what you want around your baby? Ban her from your house and keep your family safe.
Pressing charges won’t but allowing her to continue this behavior will