Okay, RANT TIME. My MIL threw my SIL a baby shower 5 months ago and didn’t invite me or my husband. Now she texted my friend (The one accepting RSVPS) That she can’t make it to our baby shower. She plays favorites with her daughter in laws and for some reason she’s chosen that she doesn’t like me. I feel so hurt but I’m not going to say anything to her bc thats what she wants. I’ve already blocked her on everything but she’s still finding ways to get under my skin. Now, I never want her to even meet our baby. How do I cut her off even more if she’s already blocked? My husband is fully on my side btw. Idk what to do or what to ever say to her again. Advice please.
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I would start with not keeping her in the loop. Don’t let her know if you are going to be admitted or when you go in to have your baby. She’s shown no interest in your baby and made it clear she doesn’t care, so why give her details. Keep communicating with your husband and do this as a team. So she cannot wheedle her way in. Mine you extract info from my DH or her his sibling to, just so she could let me know that she already knew stuff. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Try to cut her out if your thoughts and try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Enjoy it and make sure all her flying monkeys see you enjoying it. Being happy is the best revenge
You have to change your mindset.
When she pulls tricks like this, it needs to amuse you. She’s a non-entity desperately trying to get your attention and that makes you laugh.
When you have events, don’t invite her and make sure she’s the last to know.
If she tries to pop up, have someone throw her out, but don’t ever do it yourself. She doesn’t deserve your time or attention.
Some can’t play favorites and exclude you if you don’t care, and that means she’ll be competing with herself.
If she wasn’t related by blood to your child would you ever want to introduce h8m/her to someone like her for any other reason? I would rather my child have an honorary aunt or grandmother than a relationship with a toxic mind game playing favourite picker.
Just stop. Both you and your husband. Don’t initiate any conversation, block her on social media, and don’t attend any events at her house. When you see her in public, smile politely and walk away.
Block her on everything. Also, put up a camera doorbell and don’t open the door to her ever.
How does the rest of his family, especially the DIL, treat you? MIL seems crazy. Glad your husband supports you.
This woman should never meet your child. You don’t owe her an explanation for that. She doesn’t exist in your world. She’s shown herself the door.
Why didn’t SIL invite you? You could make sure to invite all the family but her. Post lots of fun pics. Don’t ever answer her calls. Don’t tell her when baby is born. Start planning family dinners and vacations. If you ever do have to see her, make sure to talk about how awesome your friend’s MIL. How gracious, classy, and inclusive she is. Under your breath mumble, “if only I was that lucky” then wipe a tear away.