My husband and I have been married for 6 weeks and have known each other/dated for 5 years.
I’m really struggling with my new MIL. She missed multiple wedding events and showed up late plus was an anxious wreak but I guess that happens day of wedding.
Right after we got married, literally right after she called the next day twice (I didn’t pick up) then texted that if she’s ever too much we can have a “safe word” and I thought that was weird.
She keeps repeatedly telling my husband things like “our relationship is changing” and is anxious about that. She just mentioned that to him last night on the phone..
Now I feel like she’s love bombing me in a way. Her requests for closeness don’t feel genuine and feel forced and literally over the weekend she was on the phone with my husband and was like “how do I get to know your new wife better” and he keeps telling her these relationships take time to build.
She also took very little interest in me when we were dating. Even said she wasn’t sure about me because I am a different race but “realized that isn’t far because I’m lovely” but these women (certain race) are just so beautiful (not my race). It was weird but I ignored it. She also saw a pic of me online and called my then newly fiancé up and asked if I was pregnant……. (the lighting was off and it made me look like I had a belly).
It feels like she grabbing on with full force to make a relationship happen and is now coming back to visit us because she “didn’t get to spend enough time” in our city during the wedding because she was stressed.
She mentioned to my husband how she never had a daughter and now she does I’m like :/ it’s not outright rude but I just get a sense something is off. It’s like she’s calling me daughter because she feels like that will get me idk.
Anyway, this is causing me to freak out. Maybe I’m overreacting – I hope I am but in 6 weeks my husband and I talked to my dad, his FIL, ONCE on the phone for 30 minutes and it was casual. He wasn’t trying to force his new son in law into a close relationship.
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