My MIL is a kind person, I was in a good relationship with her prior to having a baby but as soon LO was born I saw a different side of her that I don’t like at all.
She does things her way with LO, doesn’t know how to carry LO properly. Brings her own “baby cloth” everywhere whenever she’s around LO since hospital birth until now. Doesn’t use the stuff I have prepared for LO and now she’s planning to work part time – 3 days a week once I return to work hoping that she’ll babysit LO at her house while I’m working.
I don’t know if this is a mother instinct or just me – but I don’t trust her at all when she’s alone with my LO. I don’t even feel comfortable when she carries LO around me! God help me I’m losing my mind, everytime we plan a visit to see her I get anxiety thinking of the day when we see her 😭 she tries to play house when I’m not around baby and thinks she’s in control. My SO doesn’t get it. It’s more likely he’s scared of her, sounds like she was very bossy with my SO when he was younger.
How do I avoid her in looking after my LO once I return to work?
TIA
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Put LO in daycare 🙂
“No” is a complete sentence. Don’t let anyone push you into letting her babysit if you don’t want her to. Trust your instinct. Put LO in daycare or find another solution.
How is she with boundaries? Does she respect them?
“Free” daycare is never actually free.
Trust your gut.
Read about some of the babysitting MIL stories on this sub.
You say no. And you have to call her out on everything that makes you uncomfortable, immediately. So for example the cloth thing. If she wants to use that on herself then you can’t stop her. If she tries to touch your kid with it you tell her “no”. Tell her you don’t know where it’s been or whatever then supply her with the correct item. But you need to send a clear message that when it comes to any action/decision/activity/food or whatever for your child then you are the boss, not her.