I’m 32 M, I’ve been with my girl for 8 years, and her mom (MIL) is very uncomfortable and has a difficult time keeping her hands off me.
Her mom gives me these very weak, fake hugs, mostly coming from the side every time I see her, which honestly, drives me insane. It’s awkward, uncomfortable and feels off. Not genuine at all.
However, if I don’t have a shirt on, she clings to me and can’t keep her hands off me. She will wrap her arm around me, put her hands either on my back, stomach, neck, or shoulders. I’ve tried to move away from her when she does this but it doesn’t seem to help. Part of this is my fault for allowing it to happen for so long and now it’s just weird…or maybe now just normal. Although probably not common, I’m always shirtless when either in our apartment when she visits, or at her home. When we visit her parents we almost always spend the night so I do get comfortable. We take our bag to the room we stay in, it comes off, and comes on when we leave.
My girl doesn’t think there is really anything wrong with her moms actions, so I’m kind of tired of talking to her about it. Her solution is to “put a shirt on” if I feel that is the issue.
Over the 4th of July weekend, we will be with them. We will be at a cabin together with them hanging out, grilling, doing a lot of nothing.
I’d like to know, who’s in the wrong? What would you do if you were me and would you handle this July 4th weekend differently than in the past?
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Ask her how she’d feel if your father did the same with her, would she just need to cover up?
I honestly think my daughter would at the very least give me the side eye if I did this with her husband 😂. It doesn’t seem like a normal thing for a MIL to do to me.
I’m so grossed out that your wife is putting this on you. Tell her to speak up on your behalf or else you will speak up for yourself and risk souring the relationship permanently. You should not have to put up with this even one more time!