We were playing one time, and beside me were my MIL and my SIL, who is the mom of my 1-year-old niece. So the baby had to choose who she wanted to go to. On the first round alone, she chose to come to me. Then my MIL suddenly said to the baby, “Don’t come to me anymore, okay? I won’t take care of you anymore. Just go to your aunt instead.”
She kept saying things like that over and over, even until the next day. Both I and the baby’s mom could hear her. But all the baby’s mom said was, “Grandma is just being dramatic.”
So what I did was distance myself from the baby. Even if she wanted to play, I avoided getting close because I was worried my MIL might say something again.
Then we went on a long drive — my husband was driving, and I was beside him. I played music like Gloc-9 to stay awake, and my MIL said, “Just Christian songs, please, dear.”
Another time, my husband, our niece, and I were watching a performance by 98 Degrees. It was just a song, nothing inappropriate. Then my MIL suddenly came in and said, “You’re watching that? Just Christian songs, okay?” I just said, “Take the baby, give her to her grandma,” even if the baby didn’t want to go. I just didn’t want my MIL to say anything more.
Honestly, I just really want to move out. It’s so difficult living with a MIL like this. I can only imagine how much worse it might get the longer this goes on.
By the way, I’ve only been living with them under the same roof for four months. Yes, we’re all in the same house — my husband’s brother’s family with two babies, me and my husband in a small room, and my in-laws. 😅 It’s just incredibly hard
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You need to do whatever you can to get out of there before you have children. You will spend your child’s childhood competing with grandma or giving your child over to grandma so as not to rock the boat.
I cannot stress enough how living with your mil is a huge mistake. You will lose your privacy and autonomy and she will assert her dominance.
She will forever be in the middle of your marriage. To your detriment.
If she was in your car, you choose the music.
If you are in ‘your space’ even in her home, you watch what you want.
Stop giving into her. It will never stop. Stand up.