She’s generally a nice person, but I keep noticing that she’ll want what I or others have, in an almost child-like way. She’s gotten me a luxury gift in the past, that I absolutely did not ask for, but accepted as it was a sweet gesture. Now she’s hinting to my SO that she’d like a luxury gift. It really makes me feel uncomfortable that she would even hint at this and that my SO doesn’t see any problem with it.
My own mother has helped us wayyy more, and she’s never even hinted at wanting anything from us. So it’s really bothering me that my SO is even entertaining this.
How do I address this? Should I get it for her, just to even out what she bought for me? Would love to get both perspectives.
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You accepted the gift from her. I’d buy her a gift with the same value but then the next time refuse her luxury gift politely but firmly so you won’t get stuck in a neverending uncomfortable “gift loop”.
I’m curious as to what she asking for, but I wouldn’t get it. Is it even in your budget?
Sounds like MIL’s got a taste for luxury and zero subtlety. Your SO’s obliviousness is almost as concerning as MIL’s hints. Address it directly, tell your SO how it makes you feel and set boundaries. No need to reciprocate or enable entitlement.
What is it that she is actually wanting?