I wasn’t sure what flair but honestly just want to rant lol.
I posted a few weeks back about MIL turning up at our home unannounced with gifts while me & LO were out.
Today DH took LO to the park to give me some time to myself.
I’m pottering around the house minding my own business & notice a car pull up outside our building & see Mil get out.
As I’m messaging my husband to tell him his mum is being creepy again by turning up out of the blue, I see him & LO walk around the corner to come back home. I call him to tell him to quickly turn around as his mum is at our door & don’t want her to see & interact with LO.
We live in a flat but MIL didn’t ring the intercom to be buzzed up (probably because she knew we’d see her in the camera & wouldn’t answer or invite her up).
She instead waited outside the main door for someone to leave the building to get in and leave gifts outside our front door (she again didn’t ring our doorbell).
At this point it felt like some sort of covert spy operation, creeping around quietly so she didnt suspect anyone was home, peeking out the window to make sure she left, to then tell DH it’s safe to come home lol
As soon as DH walked in he told me he had messaged his mother saying she’s not welcome here and can’t be turning up like this.
She left flowers and fruit as gifts for me ….from our daughter??? for (UK) Mothers day. From my child!!?? The grandchild she keeps saying she doesn’t want to have a relationship with!
All I could think was, is this woman OK!?
Even after the first time Mil turned up uninvited she still maintained that she didn’t want a relationship with our toddler if she can’t babysit & take her off alone (and that was only a few weeks ago!)
She basically wants unsupervised access or nothing at all.
So why the gifts! It’s been 6 months and we haven’t changed our minds. Why can’t she just leave us alone!
Now I am actually thinking Mil is going to ramp up this nonsense after she finds out I’m pregnant with LO2. We will see her in a couple of weeks at a big 40th party (LO won’t be with us luckily) and I’m halfway through my pregnancy so have an obvious baby bump.
We don’t intend to let MIl in if she turns up and I will be giving the flowers away.
I just can’t understand what she’s trying to achieve acting like this!
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Will the police give her a trespass warning wherer you live?
I’d start recording her from the phone being creepy. Take pictures of the gifts at your doorstep. Gather evidence.