I need advice…….MIL kept both my kids (3 and 8 months) Friday night so my husband and I could go eat for our anniversary. This was only my 2nd time leaving my baby, the other time was a couple hours with my sister. MIL has never kept her. We have deep seeded issues since I have had my first baby and I am trying to help repair the relationship, but I think we are past that honestly. Baby goes to bed between 6:30 and 7, and does great after a few minutes of being laid down. We told her this. Friday, she kept her up until 8:30, saying she wasnt tired and wouldn’t go to sleep. Camera in babies room showed her never being laid down in her crib, just rocking and standing up consoling her. I dont mind the rocking, but she never even tried to lay her down. She would leave the room for a while. FIL was also there, so 3 year old was fine. This resulted in poor sleep that night and a few wakeups. Tried to catch her up yesterday, but knew it would take some time. Whatever, we can adjust. The issue…..
Saturday night, she kept baby only so we could take 3 year old to an event for a few hours. Hindsight, we shouldnt have used her 2 nights in a row, but lesson learned. Baby eats around 5:30 and nurses/ takes bottle at 6:15. Have bo idea how she fed her so quickly…..She had her in bed at 5:50 and was bragging about how good she fell asleep. Like, an hour early. But she didn’t tell us this until we text her at 6:45 to ask if she went down okay yet. She doesnt text back until close to 7:30. She then tells us that she just woke up, but put herself back to sleep in a few minutes and she DID NOT have to go in there to console her.
Baby never really puts herself back to sleep, so that was weird and with no reply for so long from her, I later check the crib camera and saw that baby was in bed at 5:45 and woke up at 6:30 crying. So basically she got a short nap. MIL was in her room from 6:30-7:30 trying to console her. Which is completely fine, please comfort my baby. But why feel the need to lie right to our face? Do I call her out on this? Hubby can approach her, but its almost more of a direct hit coming from me and I think this would be a good one to address. How would you approach it?
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She’s lying to you about small stuff…..not sure I would trust her with kids. Just ask her I’d she knows you have cameras in the kids rooms??
I would just not ask her to babysit anymore.
She disregarded your instructions and lied to you about what she did. She just cannot be trusted to look after children.
Does she know about the camera?