So after being in a relationship for 2 years I’ve come to realize how deeply enmeshed my fiancé is with his mother. She tried to sabotage his proposal to me, his family despises me. I feel like my fiancé has lied to me about the extent in which things are with his mom and his ability to defend me so I snooped on her messages and I honestly don’t regret it.
Turns out she loves sending him old pics of her laying poolside in a bikini. I’m not lean by any means but I can’t help but feel that she does that to get him to compare my body to hers. It’s so weird and feels like a form of incest. She’s in love with her son. She picks me apart and scrutinizes me for simply existing and he rarely handles it the way he should.
Ugh after scrolling their messages I feel so disgusted and heartbroken. It was so weird and bizarre. It was like reading a dialogue between romantic partners. She also told him “no one will ever love you like your family loves you”
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