MIL sold the “family cabin dream,” took the money, and now treats it like her personal kingdom

Edit: posted the wrong post to /JUSTNOMIL

I’m so annoyed. We’re dealing with in-law drama again.

Years ago, MIL and FIL bought a lakeside property under the pretense that it would be a summer house for the family to enjoy. Under that sales pitch, DH and BIL each invested 50% of the cost to build a guest house next to the main property so “everyone could enjoy the space together and autonomously.”

Of course, a few years into the project, once the building was done and the money was spent… SURPRISE SURPRISE… MIL and FIL decided to sell their house and move there full-time.

So now, what we actually have is a guest house next to MIL’s full-time residence, meaning we can never truly enjoy the place without having to see them. ENRAGING, yes, but not even the point of my post LOL.

BIL and his wife love going there all the time, even when MIL and FIL are there, while I obviously don’t. The ongoing dynamic is that they all make purchases for this property, dividing the cost by four (MIL, FIL, BIL, DH) so yes, their sons are basically funding their lifestyle. A fun example: DH was expected to chip in for a boat that would just stay on their property. Since we got married, DH and I agreed: no more investments into the parents’ lifestyle. We’re building our own dreams, and DH refused to pay for the boat, which was met with disapproval, naturally.

MIL, of course, also treats the guest house as her hoarding overflow. The freezer is stuffed to the brim with her random food, the closets are overflowing with their stuff, and last time we stayed over, we got scolded for leaving half a banana in the fridge and a couple of mugs in the sink. But sure, let’s pretend it’s “ours to enjoy.” BIL and SIL keep lots of stuff there,too but somehow we’re the dirty incosiderate ones for forgetting a half eaten banana in the fridge….. they completly hijacked the interior design too because “they are so design conscious” but have no taste and no concept of art or design, they are the kind of folks who would love a “live laugh love sign” which I wouldn’t even care about except they have made fun of MY decor choices like a mexican sculpture from the 70s and a custom woven piece we commissioned as our first art piece togther. not that it matters but I have been to art school and regularly attend exhibitions. too but somehow we’re the dirty inconsiderate ones for forgetting a half-eaten banana in the fridge…..

And here’s the kicker: When DH casually mentioned to MIL that we would like to buy our own summer place someday, she freaked out and demanded, “Why would you do that when you already have a summer place with us” “that is sooooo strange that you would want that..” Because, of course, in her mind, we’re all one big happy family who just loves to live under her thumb forever.

But MIL sold the “family cabin dream,” took the money, moved in full-time, stuffed it with her junk, and now expects us to keep funding their lifestyle while we tiptoe around her rules and drama. And the total amount of time they will go away this summer: 2 nights. LOL

Edit: DH has suggested selling his share but FIL said that he would only get the money he put in and not what the property is actually worth and the property is in FILs name.