MIL had a gift request (I didn’t know anything more than flower is expected,… I’m the one currently raising children and I don’t expect that)
She wanted updated photos of our children but also has a specific size request. We already spent a lot of money on school photos for each kid, but the photos we have for her are one size larger than she wants. Is it wrong to give her what we have? We have a lot of children. Maybe I’m just irritated over the asking for something…
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Give her what you have and if she wants copies of different sizes she can go off on her own. How bizarre to ask for that lol
I would give her a thumb drive with digital copies so she can print the size she wants herself.
She’s your husband’s mother so why can’t she have more than flowers from her own kids ?
Just tell your husband about his mother’s request and let him deal with it. She’s his mother, not yours.
My rule is I don’t print photos for family unless they need to be special ordered. I send digitals so that way everyone can choose what photos/size they want without all the back & forth because I’m too busy parenting to also be a delivery service like that.
When I give a photo gift (which I do pretty often for my MIL), I choose the photo and size myself. It’s never a request from her.
That being said, if I’m already sending photos to print and my family asks for a print & specific size, I’ll include it in my order but it’s usually one photo of us a family rather than various individual photos. It just gets too tedious having to do anything more than that.
Your husband should be doing the gift for his mom. I’m not even reminding my husband this year about doing something for his mom for mothers day or her birthday. I get all of the blame and none of the credit, so now that I’m NC, I’m not managing their relationship anymore.
Both my mother and MIL requested specific sizes of school photos. Both because they replaced the previous year’s pictures with new ones in the existing frame. My MIL has quite a few grandchildren. The frames are all the same size for each grandchild and the frames are all matching/complimentary and hanging on the wall together. She didn’t want any child/grandchild to think one was more or less important because their picture was bigger or smaller. If we sent her a photo that was too big (we did), she’d cut it down to fit and you’d end up with a close up of your kid’s face. My elementary aged kids weren’t impressed when they saw what happened.
That being said, I don’t know the relationship you have with your MIL. I’d have my husband deal with this. Is it expensive to have additional photos made at the company who did school photos? I guess it all depends on the reason she needs a specific size and the cost to get more.