I need you guys to be honest with me, Now obviously i know it’s not in a “You should be with her” type of way because they’re his cousins lol. But the way she talks about other females in our lives feels almost like an dig at me. She talks about SOs cousins saying things like “she’s such a special girl” , “She’s so intelligent” Giving endless praises & it feels consistent. I wouldn’t think much of it tbh but the treatment i get around his family is SOOO different from this, MIL even criticizes So it kinda hurts to be around it. it’s interesting to me because she holds them in such high regards when its just us around. It just feels sort of random. She even praises them for doing such normal things? They’re not doing anything extradentary or terrific by any means. Idk. i feel totally crazy and insane for being hurt and jealous over it. I just don’t understand why I’m not treated in the same regards and nice way she treats others. Sometimes it hits me this family will never have genuine love for me the same way they do each other. It makes me feel like I’m a outsider and trying to fit into someone else life i don’t belong in. I don’t think I’ve ever received a compliment by any of them except for MILs sister in-law, Which MIL doesn’t like because she seems to think she stole her baby brother away! Go figure.
Maybe if she wasn’t so insufferable she could find her own husband instead of being mean and passive aggressive towards us for “stealing the men away in her life”
I have a LONG past with MIL, That could be its own whole post though. I speculate she has Bpd- bipolar personality disorder and she has taken some emotional abuse out on me over the years. So i don’t know if I’m just over thinking this or if its just me being paranoid or trying to deflect a form of abuse happening again.
When i first joined this family the females and cousins in specific were kinda mean to me. I moved VERY far from home to be with my SO and i was so excited to have girls around my age to befriend. They were very cold to me and rejected my attempts of reaching out. (I confided in MIL about this in the very beginning.) Especially after the family went out to go eat at a restaurant, & i wore a casual cute sun dress which was fitting for the occasion. His cousins are all kind of chunky. They stared , pointed whispered to each other when i walked in and laughed. lol I come from a POOR family and these girls grew up rich and it feels like from day one they’ve always only pointed out my flaws along with MIL and never even tried ever being friendly with me. I remember my phone had a broken screen and they passed it around the table laughing. (I was 19 and just moved here, i couldn’t afford a new phone, Like how their parents take care of all that stuff for them..) It felt like bullying. I confided in MIL over this and she defended them making excuses for them. Whatever.
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