Me (27F) and my husband (26M) have been together for 9 years, married for 1. We do not want children, nor have we ever. This was something we both agreed on very early in our relationship.
Over the last 9 years, we have been very vocal about not having kids. At first my MIL just brushed it off because we were so young. But now that we are nearing 30 and she’s seeing all her friends become grandparents, she won’t leave us alone about it.
A few days ago, she was in town for a week (she lives a couple states away) so we met up with her at a local bar to catch up. She immediately starts bringing up having a baby. I shut her down, telling her I have absolutely no desire to ever be pregnant, give birth, and destroy my body. She starts CRYING in the packed bar, telling us we are so young and we have time to change our minds. How fucking embarrassing. We tell her there is absolutely no chance we are having a kid, ever, under any circumstance. Through her big selfish crocodile tears, she looks up at my husband and says “But is this what YOU want??” Basically insinuating that this wasn’t a choice we made together, and I’m forcing him to be child free with me against his own desires. My husband very sternly says “you can grieve your grandchild fantasy privately if you want, but you WILL respect my wife and our wishes”. I just smiled, shifted in my bar stool to face the other way, and slurped down my double shot vodka cran (which I can do because i’m not pregnant).
Anyway, she left that night to go back to her house 13 hours away, and she has no idea that my husband got his vasectomy done literally the next day lol.
So here we are on a Friday night, my husband is icing his sore post-vasectomy parts, we’re binge watching our favorite show, we’re going to sleep in as late as we want tomorrow, and my MIL is far far away. CHEERS!
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This is amazing! And I hope your husband heals quickly (don’t forget clearance before going fully without protection)
I initially was childfree – this isn’t a change your mind situation – but I did change my mind and we didn’t tell my ILs anything because MIL told me I had to have been pregnant on my wedding day. Because I didn’t drink champagne. I hate champagne and was drunk on cruisers anyway 😆
I didn’t change my mind until 3 years later.
Outside of your own personal reasons for being childfree, you’re dodging a huge fucking bullet!
Very nicely done! Wishing your husband quick healing and wishing you both a beautiful life filled with everything that brings you joy.
Your life is yours to live. Live it well xx