Just had a baby 10 months ago, MIL & most of my husbands family members were never my friends on social media. Now that we have a baby they have seemed to want to add me, we have been together 5 years. MIL & I had a huge fight when I was about 3 months pp, because if they could’ve come see the baby everyday they would’ve and it was getting too much for me. They were dropping by unannounced and I had to put a stop to it, she did not like that since I am usually a sweet people pleaser type. She told me she was so disgusted by my behavior and a lot of other mean stuff I’ve had a hard time forgiving her for even though she’s apologized. I am selective of what I share with the one social media outlet I have her on because when she sees pictures of my baby it seems to begin a questionnaire of texts from her. She even told me she saw a picture of my mom pushing the baby on a swing so she had to buy a swing for her home, thought that was sort of strange because she rarely goes to their home and is it a competition? Now she wants to add me on a different social media that I use a lot more and I don’t want to be her friend. It’s difficult though because I am friends with other family members of husband, such as SIL and other cousins he has but they don’t annoy me. What should I do and how should I handle the situation? To add fuel to the fire, I have a sister who I don’t get along with as well who she has already followed and my sister has followed back, I don’t want to feel like a jerk but I’d really like privacy from my MIL and this was my one outlet that I had my space on.
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Your account, your life, your decision.
You don’t have to be friends with MIL online or irl.
Just don’t accept the request. You don’t need to explain why to anyone and if anyone gets upset, just reply “what an odd thing to get upset about”