At the beach with my husband, baby, SIL, MIL, and my two nephews. Baby’s hungry, so I go to breastfeed him. MIL basically forces her jacket over me and baby and says “there you go”. It’s 90 degrees outside. I say “no thank you” and hand it back to her. Sorry I’m not giving my baby heat stroke so someone doesn’t see a little more than what a bikini would show. She immediately moved away from me like she was embarrassed and complained to husband how I wouldn’t “cover up”. Husband told her it’s 90 degrees outside and it’s hot enough just having him against me without a cover. She asks him if he’s okay with everyone seeing his wife “like that”. He says “they’re just boobs, half the world has them.”
I loved that response lol.
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I also love that response lol what a good husband
Literally there’s topless women suntanning everywhere why would you feel bad
lmao, good on your for standing up for yourself, and good on your husband for that cracker of a response. MIL is living in the 90s
Ooh, you got a good one with a super shiny spine!
Husband for the win! 🏆
Time to not see that woman until you finish breastfeeding since she was sooo embarrassed by it! See you in x years! 😂
Boy I’d hate to see her in a country where women only wear bikini bottoms. What is she gonna do bring jackets and hand them out to every woman?
lol your husband sounds like a keeper
Your husband is a keeper and you are bad assed, Mama!
Dude this would piss me off but also I wouldn’t even respond and do whatever I want. By my third and fourth breastfed babies I was feeding on the go, and every single person could look the other way (putting it nicely) lol
Whaaa love how hubs retorted! Well done to the pair of you for not entertaining MIL’s bs 👍
She’d’ve pitched an absolute fit over my feeding twins simultaneously on a couch at a science fiction convention.
Yeah, stop letting her come to the beach with you
The self loathing and shame programmed into generations of Stepford wives is insane.
Why did she even have a jacket on the beach?!?!
Give your husband hugs from us!
Technically the whole world has them! Men’s boobs (usually) just aren’t that big.
Free the Nipple!
I was always modest about breastfeeding (not that it’s a requirement… just how I am… it’s just what I’m comfortable with) but with a jacket at 90 degrees? On the beach? Nope. Even I wouldn’t do that! I might move to a less crowded area (that’s me… not mandatory for others of course).
You are correct not to overheat your child for ANYONE’S comfort
Love his response. Someone once was shocked and talked to my husband about us having different last names. He just leaned in and whispered like he was about to tell a secret and said, “we have different fathers.”
If she finds it offensive when you feed your baby then I suggest she stop finding you. If she starts up again then maybe she needs to try popping into a yurt while being fully covered on the beach any time she needs to eat.
Please pop your coat over her head next time shes eating and say ‘there you go’
Um, baby covers the nipple so what is she seeing? The same thing she can see on any other woman at the beach
Green flags. Great teamwork parents. OP is lucky.
Your husband gets it, boobs aren’t crime scenes. MIL’s acting like she’s from the Victorian era. Good on you for sticking to comfort over ridiculous modesty policing.
Since you’re so offended by me feeding my child, we won’t be around you until I’ve stopped breastfeeding
Tell her to eat under a jacket at the beach with someone else pressed up against her
Sounds like your husband handled that perfectly. You prioritized your baby’s comfort, stood your ground politely, and he backed you up without hesitation. MIL’s embarrassment is her problem, especially when you were showing no more than anyone else in swimwear on a beach.
Solidarity! My aunt has body shamed me since I was going through puberty at eight years old. She has more personality than just that, so I just gray rock it and move on. When I started breastfeeding though, she was so HORRIFIED that I had to do this in public sometimes. She would try to cover me with jackets and blankets, or stand in front of me with her coat open for “privacy.”
At her house, she insisted I had to go into a bedroom to nurse him so no one would see me. Her husband, my uncle, was even perplexed by it. At one point, he said to me, “I mean, I grew up in the 40’s and 50’s. Women just…fed their babies and did what they had to do. No one made a big deal about it or noticed.”
Considering he and my husband were the only men in the house, the only one that had a problem with my boobs being used openly as a food source was…her!
It sucks and I’m sorry your MIL is like that.
Oh I remember this story. I read it when you posted it the first time a while back and couldn’t believe she had the audacity! What a crazy controlling lady