MIL is a difficult person to be around, and I was trying to be patient but she went too far…
She was changing my 6 weeks old baby girl’s nappy and said to her: “I wish my bits were as juicy as yours”.
I didn’t say anything I just got shocked and disgusted. How can she even think that while watching a newborn naked body? It sounds so abusive and twisted.
I didnt say anything to her at the moment because she always denies things and tries to make me look like I am crazy. I my baby and I were alone with her and I wouldnt have my partner as witness of her mistreating me. Also, she doesnt get anything I ever say to her. I think she has some disorder… something has always been wrong with her.
I spoke to my partner and decided I am not spending any more time alone without him with MIL, and our baby will NOT be alone with her, we will allow her to hold her but NOT change her or bath her basically not be in contact with my daughter’s body. I need to protect her.
I would like your opinions and other suggestions on how to deal with people like her specially when my daughter becomes a toddler/little girl. I feel i cant allow my MIL to tell her those things or be too close.
Thanks for reading
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This is a nauseating thing to hear. Protect your dear baby.
I’m glad you plan to honor your instincts. What MIL said was disgusting. There are so many things wrong with the fact that her mind would go there and that she would say it. You’re right – she must never be alone with your daughter.
That’s so messed up. Your MIL is unhinged. Protect that baby at all costs, do not let her near your daughters naked body, and don’t let her or your partner gaslight you into thinking that’s a normal thing to say.
That turned my stomach. Firstly, you’re absolutely right. You need to protect her.
Going forward, no unsupervised visits.
Any other comments, get your daughter and say “That was creepy and that’s cost you this visit and potential others.” Get up and take her. No strikes, just go.
How are you? Do you have other support?