Location: North Carolina, USA. In 2024 my ex husband who is still an active member of the military blindsided me and asked for a divorce. I later found out he was sleeping with one of his junior enlisted but I didn’t have hard proof. And was told by a lawyer that it wasn’t enough to do anything about so I just quietly packed my things and moved home with my parents. It has now been well over the year of separation and my ex husband is refusing to actually get the papers together. He keeps saying he is on field ops but I know he is lying because I still have him on a life 360 circle that has my location off. Now I know what you’re thinking but I only kept that on my phone because he was a habitual liar and even when called out he wouldn’t admit he was lying. I was afraid that he would lie about me and end up with a mob of his shitty friends drunk and come do something awful or try to steal my cat that I kept in the divorce. I just want him out of my life. I don’t want this hanging over my head anymore. But I don’t think I should have to pay for a lawyer because he gets that for free and our separation agreement is drawn up and I even got divorce papers but they didn’t have anywhere for me to sign! I called the court house and they said I didn’t have to do anything, that in 30 days the court date would come and I didn’t even have to be there and the marriage would be dissolved. I just found out a week ago he didn’t go to court!!! So nothing happened!!! Idk what to do. I’m at the end of my rope and don’t know who to call or contact to get this finalized and over with. I don’t want anything from him. I just want him cut out of my life.