My MIL is relentless about us having a baby. We’re finally in a place where we feel ready, but honestly? Her behavior is making me want to slam the brakes. She’s been pushing this for years — “tick tock” comments, baby videos, mom memes, reels, hints in every group setting. You name it, she’s done it. We’ve told her multiple times to knock it off.
Her response? She blew up and became extremely passive-aggressive for months. She started sending me super-charged texts dripping with guilt and weird undertones, and then blocked me on social media. Because… we asked for basic boundaries. I guess telling her we weren’t ready to have a baby was just too offensive?
It’s immature, disrespectful, and absolutely exhausting. This should be an exciting decision for us — instead it feels like we’re under a microscope. I already feel like I can’t breathe around her. How am I supposed to survive pregnancy with her acting like she’s the one carrying the baby?
And if this gives you any idea of how far she’s already inserted herself: she’s told us she wants to be called Nana. Cute, right? Except that’s the name I already call my own grandmother, who is very much alive and staying Nana. She’s acting like the baby is hers, and I haven’t even peed on a stick yet.
My husband and I have already had serious conversations about how overbearing and entitled she’ll be when the baby does arrive. Honestly? I’d be fine with her not being involved at all. But I’m not about to ask him to cut off his mom — I just want peace, space, and for her to stop acting like this is her do-over baby.
If anyone has navigated a boundary-stomping MIL like this without completely losing it, please send help. Preferably in the form of a flamethrower and a laminated list of firm boundaries.