Sometime lurker here but first time post. My SO and I thankfully live continents away from MIL who would have otherwise been a JNMIL for real. We have a 9 week old baby and I have just slowly overcome a tough patch with breastfeeding, for context.
Now when the baby was teeny teeny tiny, at a week old, she called to see the baby over FaceTime and said she wanted to see the baby kick and play and not see it sleeping. Even now she will text and ask “sleeping?” And if yes, her response is “only want to see play.” Okay, weird obsession but whatever.
Then she keeps telling me and SO whenever we talk about how well behaved he was as a baby. This is especially so when we mention the poor baby was a bit cranky etc. she will drop an insinuation that all the “bad behaviours” come from me or my family. WTF?
Finally, today I lost it on something she’s been doing from the first time. If the baby in as much stirs or cries while on video call, her first question in cooing baby tones is “sweetheart is your mother not feeding you enough milk?” I am already struggling mentally with this and this woman asks this.
Today I told her that some “friends” of mine have the gumption to ask this and have been cut out of my life. Wanted to deliver the message but do it diplomatically. Her first response? To say that I’m brusque and should be forgiving.
Ten minutes later, the baby only cooed and she tried this question, caught herself mid-sentence and diverted topic. I dread having to go visit this woman. Am I imagining her to be a fairly awful creature just now?
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Did her son spring from her loins as a toddler? Does she know anything about 9 WEEK old babies?! Let your husband manage his mother and FT her. Enough! And I wouldnt visit her for like a year. Ya know, when she is more playful.