(And My friend’s claim to a name)
Even though I have remained NC with MIL(Much to her annoyance)Will remain NC, My husband still has contact with her. Mainly every couple days when he checks in on his sick grandfather.
MIL can go on a spiral of things when she’s been drinking . For context at the end of last summer while my husband was working away alot I invited a couple of my closet friends my mom and MIL(Before the craziness started) over and we got on the topic of baby names. One friend brought up that hopefully one day if she has a daughter she’d name her Lucy. MIL since then without my friend around has found ‘Lucy’ beautiful and wanted us to name our daughter that. Because it didn’t feel right and respect for my friend we went for another name completely.
Just a couple hours ago MIL started texting my husband out the blue about the subject I’m just going to type them out here:
MIL: I still don’t understand why you didn’t chose the name Lucy, It’s classic and sweet it would have suited baby better.
SO: We’ve been over this OP doesn’t want to upset her friend and we had other names in mind.
MIL: It’s a name! This is something that should be thought of while planning to have a baby not years before where she can say ‘Nope nobody else can have the name their baby Lucy’, She had claimed it before you guys got to think of it as a name suggestion. I even suggested it up until the end and you both still wouldn’t take it”.
SO: My wife respects her friends and I respect my wife I’m not going to argue with her over a name someone she cares about Hope’s to use one day. How would you feel if a friend you’ve had for 20+years chose your name for your baby?
MIL: That’s not the point. The point is somebody claimed a name and expected you and your wife to be fine with it. The baby would have been fine with the name Lucy. I don’t know why OP remains friends with her.
SO: Just stop already I’m not talking anymore about this. You’re making scenarios up in your head and acting like it’s real life. If this stuff that you truly believe is happening you can feel free to step out of lives.
MIL: I’m only trying to look out for you.
My husband hasn’t responded but told me that since is so out the blue she either been out drinking someone and brought it up or she sitting at home drinking, Thinking of everything that has ever annoyed her and making up extra versions of events.
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MIL’s still salty about being cut out of your life and is taking it out on the baby’s name. She’s projecting entitlement and trying to stir drama where there isn’t any. Your husband handled it well, btw.
My mother in law did this to my brother and sister in law when they discovered my niece was a girl. DEMANDED they name the baby my mother in law’s favorite girl name because my mother in law had 3 boys and it was a “waste” not to use such a pretty name so they HAD to use it. It did not go well for my mother in law lol! Oddly enough, she didn’t do it to us when we had our daughter 3 years earlier and our boundaries aren’t as solid as my brother and sister in law’s are, so idk where she got off on trying to pull that shit on them.