Ok, folks, it’s been quite some time since I’ve posted here. We are very, very low contact with my MIL. But she has done something I find soooo outrageous I felt compelled to share with this subreddit.
Let me start by saying everyone involved in this dysfunction junction is an adult.
Here we go, my MIL has been blaming me pretty much since we had kids (of course) for her distant relationship with DH. She has been told repeatedly by me, DH, his sister and my adult son that I actually encourage DH to try to have a better relationship with her (without me involved of course). But, no matter how many times she’s told that, she continues to blame me for her lack of relationship with her son).
Well, recently she said some pretty vile things to my son (he’s 33 yo. He and his grandmother have a very toxic relationship. He acknowledges that it’s a mess and he has recently cut her off. I’m sure that will make her spiral because her codependency will be left in limbo).
Here is an example of some of what she has said in the last two weeks.
Your mother is going to hell for what she has done (she’s been saying this for a good 20 years to my children ). I honestly don’t know what I’ve done other than see through her bullshit.
I wish you (my son) were never born, my life would be so much better.
Your mother should have killed you (I’m assuming she’s alluding that I should have had an a******n).
I’m tired of her saying “well, I was mad.” She thinks if she’s pissed off she can say whatever vile shit she wants and then act like nothing happened! I’m OVER IT!
Just a rant, but I welcome comments. Has anyone else’s MIL said such vile things to your children about you or directed at your child (minors or adults)?
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Nothing nearly that vile, but if she did I protect myself, and my kids from ever interacting with her again. She would be cut off from everything forever.
Omg- the way my mamma bear reacted when i read her words. I dont know how you deal with someone like that. I have known the type to say things that are unforgivable and then the mood passed and there is no apology or acknowledgement of the things said. Your son will do whst he thinks is best but 20 yesrs of hearing bs about his Mom has probably created a rage of 1,000 suns.