21M, moving to a small city soon for grad school. I’ve never dated before, so looking forward to starting that as soon as I move out of my parents house.
I’m Palestinian, and always saw myself eventually ending up with a Palestinian girl. However, there are barely any Muslims in the city I’m moving to, let alone Palestinians. There are a few Arab girls in my class, but 1) apparently bad idea to date classmates and 2) not a great dating pool.
Looking for advice from people who ended up with someone of a different background. Being Palestinian is a BIG part of my identity and I was hoping to share that with my future wife and raise my eventual children in a Palestinian household. I assume that there’s a few people who have already faced this issue here.
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There are always culture clashes, but that’s actually part of the fun for me. I like teaching people about my culture, and I like learning about theirs. Also, there are parts of my culture that I don’t approve of and it’s sometimes easier to excise those parts if you’re not dating someone who was similarly raised that way.
Not going to say there are no challenges. Sometimes a clash can culminate into a dealbreaker, but it doesn’t always end up that way. The key is being willing and able to compromise. If you are insisting that your children have to be raised only in your culture and not in theirs, you’re probably better off dating someone from your culture or at least from a culture that is similar.
Who told you it’s a bad idea to date in class? Lol
It’s a bad idea to date in the work place (usually) but not class.
That said, I’m Jewish and my last serious relationship was with a non-Jewish girl. There wasn’t really that much of a culture clash beyond the usual holidays and some Jewish things I took time to explain to her. I’ve dated other non-Jewish girls since with no issues either.