I (M, 27) am in a 3-year long-distance relationship. We meet 2–3 times a year. We recently had a discussion about getting married, and our timelines don’t align at all. She (25) needs at least 6–7 years, while I want to get married in 3–4 years max.
Also, settling in the same city will be an issue, as I am an engineer and she is a doctor. My job will always be in a Tier 1 city, while she wants to run her parents’ hospital in a Tier 3 city.
The end goal was always marriage, which now probably isn’t going to happen. I don’t see a reason to continue being in the relationship, as it will only lead to a bigger heartbreak in the future.
That said, I am deeply attached to her, and it will be very difficult for me to break up. I care about her a lot, and the thought of letting go is painful. I’m torn between being realistic and staying hopeful.
What should I do? Please be respectful or don’t bother commenting, I’m going through a lot already.
TL;DR: In a 3-year LDR. Our marriage timelines and future locations don’t align. I care about her deeply, but don’t see a future together. Struggling to decide whether to stay or move on.
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You don’t ever want to live in the same city.
I don’t think you two are getting married ever, the question is only how long you drag things out before realising it.
Admit the incompatibility and break up.