I always thought mom ( married) as the type of women who is pure and won’t be doing any wrong doings which is happening a lot nowadays.
I came to know this when she gave her phone to check one email as she is not so good with it.
Then suddenly I saw a msg from a person named as ‘ S’.. And it said night? I felt it weird because mom barely uses whatsapp and is not that active either and below that he shared a link to porno. Which is what surprised me. So then I opened it and found that they have been sharing porn links and mom has been sharing her nudes and he shared his, that’s when I came to know he lives next block Have no idea how they met and what led her to do such things . Now I even doubt if she slept with him because there has been mentioning of tine many times. It happened last week, I’m confused what to do.. One hand what she is doing is wrong on the other hand if I question it can lead to chaos with him having her nudes..
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he’s an adult, both consenting, they haven’t had sex i don’t see anything wrong
You should MYOB.
Both adults yes, but also very creepy and like you said, having her nudes/lewds can lead to very bad consequences.
OP, you don’t mention your mom being married or anything. IDK if that’s a detail you assumed was obvious but forgot to mention.
If she’s not currently married, the only issue I’m seeing here is that she has no sense of discretion due to limited tech-literacy. If she doesn’t know how to keep you or anyone else from seeing that kind of business on her phone, you might want to allude to having seen some stuff that was not meant for her eyes and give her a crash course on how to maintain her privacy.
Mind your business
She’s not doing anything wrong if she’s not married. Mind your business.
I was 18 consensually engaging in orgies with people up to 52. Meh if you’re an adult endangering your own life have at it. But no harm in saying “I find it weird if you date people younger than me”. And maybe that puts it in perspective.
It’s definitely creepy and weird as fuck but there’s not much you can do about it.
Unrelated, big pet peeve of mine is when people refer to their own mom/dad as just “mom/dad” like they’re my mom/dad, too, rather than “my mom/dad”.
Wow so many creeps on here. You should definitely say something. If it’s not so bad she won’t be embarrassed about it 🤷🏻♀️
The double standards are off putting yes confront her about it
It’s OK because she’s a woman. If a man did this it would be horrifically wrong according to Reddit’s morality
Way to young lmao
That’s so sick. Yes you should.
She’s married, of course you should confront her. Wouldn’t you do the same if it was your dad?
Maaaaan if a 47 y/o man did this these same women saying for OP to mind his own business would be ready to burn that man at the stake
It’s actually insane how many people are telling you this is okay. Even without knowing she was married.
Clearly, knowing the marriage detail now, absolutely let her poor husband know. You’d likely want someone to tell you if you were in his shoes. I know I would, even if it hurt.
Even if she wasn’t married, dating a 19 year old as a 50 year old is almost always predatory. It’s that simple. Either she wants a young person, likely for the fact that they’re young or to groom them into the perfect lover, or he wants an older person, likely to use for their money, influence, or status. It may even be both. Either way, it’s not a great scenario.
Imo, if she was truly only looking for a relationship and he was too, she wouldn’t have cheated. He wouldn’t be hiding on encrypted WhatsApp chats.
But, again, she’s married. That answers the whole question even without the “but what if’s”
Get evidence and show your dad.
“That’s bait.”
Classic Reddit double standards. She’s a woman, so it’s OK. If it was a man, all hell would break loose.
They’re both of legal age, is it odd? Of course. But unless he is trying to scam her for money I’d say stay out of it and let your mom get her jollies.
Edit: Seen that she is married, yeah confront. Cheaters should always be exposed, and yes emotional cheating is cheating.
No. Who cares
In England, a 19 year old man can drink alcohol and join the army and kill people in battle. When I was that age, I slept with a 38 year old woman. I was drunk, too. Didn’t feel preyed upon in the slightest. They were 2 consenting adults. End of fucking story
Confront what. 2 adults seeing each other… Dont get me wrong it’s immoral but they’re both legal adults.