My mom was with us during the last month of pregnancy with plans to stay and help for the first few months. This was the first time she was with us for more than a few days.
Things were going smooth at first but she started passive aggressively hinting to my wife that she shouldn’t work and just get rest. Mom has trouble following anything I say as it hurts her ego even though she is in a new country and doesn’t know the language. Because of that we were fighting often.
We were going thru one such spell when my mom told my wife that it must be so stressful to work and my wife replied that the stress from work is nothing compared to hearing you fight with your son for every single thing.
From then on mom started saying I’m just a yes man and will never stand up to my wife and no real man will do that. After the first few times, I lost it and asked her what should I do to be considered a real man? Come home drunk and beat my wife like your husband did? She went completely quiet and dropped that topic forever.
We ended up sending her back a few weeks after our baby was born as things were not working out in general. She really did not expect that as she had told all her friends that she will be with her grand kid for 3 months at least. She has started behaving since then.
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Love that shiny spine!
Good for you. Also great come back on “not being a real man”!
oh my lord, you’re off the CHAIN, good one bro hahaha
sounds harsh but you literally set a boundary she shoulda respected from day 1
And this is why boundaries only work with consequences.
But it’s also easier to appear to behave in a different country and not living in the same space.
Your wife’s response to MIL was pure gold
You two did a great job!!!
Your mom needs some therapy for the abuse she suffered.You stood up to her but you’re not showing much sympathy if she went through that OP.
You did good.
Your mother needed telling. I for one am glad you sent her home. I bet the house is much less stressed now – even with a new baby.