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My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 6yrs. Let’s call him Steve ’46M’ and I am ‘ 34 F’. Steve and I met at a friend’s party when I was 20 and he was 32. During this time I have been in 2 fail relationship where both man cheated on me with people that was close to me ( one was my best friend and the other was my cousin). So I was not looking into being in a relationship. I just wanted to focus on myself.

After the party Steve told my friend that I was going to be his wife and I just laughed it off. See Steve was recently divorce and didn’t really have a relationship with his daughter which was a turn off for me.

About three years after I met Steve I decided to go back to school for nursing. I met Megan ’23F’ and we became really good friends. One evening Megan called me crying saying that her mother just kicked her 14yrs old sister out and she doesn’t know what to do. I had my own a 3 bedroom house at the time and I offered to take her sister Ella in ( mistake number 1). When Ella came to live with me I told her that I had one rule. For her to finish High school and she agreed. Ella focused on her schooling and was a straight a student.

Steve continue to pursue me for three years and my friend advice me to go on a date with him ( mistake number 2). About a month after Ella moved in I decided to go out with Steve. After our date I was like yes he seem nice but I had a checklist back then and everything that I say that I wouldn’t do he had. I didn’t want to be with someone that have been divorced, have a kid or didn’t have the same religion as me. I did say that I wanted someone who have a close relationship with God and that was the only positive about Steve.

He continues to text me and said all the right words. Every time I’ll say something he will tell me all the right words. I started having trouble to pay my bill and he didn’t hesitate to help me. He seem to genuinely care and often will fix things that I say that I didn’t like. I then told him that him not having a relationship with his daughter was a no for me and he fixed that. He contacted his ex-wife and took her to court ( they live in Australia- and they legal system is different). Seeing the hard work put forth, the headache he went through and hefty legal cost (which was his reason for not wanting to fight her) drew me closer to him.

Once I turn 24 I decided that I will give him the chance. This man literally worship the ground that I walk on ( literally and figuratively). I did tell him about Ella and how this girl have stolen my heart and he welcome her with open arm. I had my fair of doubt as whether we were meant to be and overtime I share it with him he always asure me that he will never cheat – no I never believe him. See after having 2 fail relationships and everyone you look up to have been cheated on and divorce, it’s hard to believe that your man won’t cheat.

He move in with me 2yrs later because it sounded like the right thing to ( my idea- mistake number 3). He was always at my house and only went to his house to sleep. He propose multiple times and I kept saying no ( I was always uneasy about marrying him). He never gave me any doubt that he was cheating. Always come home and gave me the password to his phone. He will answer call in front of me and whenever we will have people over he made it known that I was the one that God created for him. If I asked about someone he will call them in front of me and always make sure that he fix whatever that makes me uneasy or doubtful.

When Ella was 16- we all went out together for her birthday and people assumed that we were her parents and we all thought it was funny. When her friends will ask who she live with she will say her mom and dad. They did seem to have a good father daughter relationship. His daughter is 4years older than Ella’s and whenever she will come visit us it will be a total blast. The four of us always had a blast and he will often says I have a queen and two princess.

One time I told my best friend that I think that he is cheating and she told me to confront him. I did and he told me that he will never leave me for ayoe. I then thought he never gave you a reason to doubt him so be vigilant. So vigilant is what I became. I will ask questions and he will answer I will look at bank statement and nothing was in the ordanary. He continues to be supportive and nothing changes with our relationship- sexually, physically or emotionally he was the same person. After three years of torture myself I decided that maybe it was all in my head and convince myself that we were good ( mistake number 5)

We welcome our prince 7 years ago. And he propose a year later so we got married ( mistake number 6). He will joke and says “I finally have another male in the house” whenever we were all together. I will often Thank God for giving me such a supportive partner.

Ella is now ’24 F’ moved in to her own apartment two months and became very successful. An hrs ago I got a phone call from Ella. Usual Wednesday phone call ( we often do Wednesday check in). She then told me that she have something to tell me. She often struggled with mental health so I thought she was going to tell me that she is depressed or lost her job. Nope.. she told me that her and my husband have been having an affair for the past 7yrs. Yes you read that right. 7 Whole Years.. The affair started when I was about 6 month pregnant with my prince ( couple months after she turn 18). It started as an experiment because she wanted to be able to have an orgasm and they both figure that he was best for the job.

Then she fell in love with him. When I asked why she is telling me this- she share that she have tried everything in her power to make him leave me and he refuses.

Apparently they both agreed that they will take this to their graves and he made it clear to her that at no circumstances that he will leave me. So she is telling me this to see if I will either leave him so she can have him to herself or I will agreed for her to be his side piece ( with my approval maybe he will continue to sleep with her-she is willing to have him at any way). So why now I asked. She then said that they both agreed that they will stop sleeping with each other 6 months ago but she misses him. Now I’m sitting here shocked 😲 and all I can do is cry. I’m am experiencing all stages of grief all at once. Wondering what to do next!! My son keep asking me if I am ok and all I can do is shake my head and tell him that “mommy is not ok but I will be”

Where do i go from here?