Are you closer you closer with your mom or dad? If you are a daddy’s girl, what is the relationship between your mother and father like?
Mothers and Daughters. Which parent are you closer with?
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Are you closer you closer with your mom or dad? If you are a daddy’s girl, what is the relationship between your mother and father like?
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Closer with my father than mother, but have a good relationship with both. My parents are divorced, so I’d say they didn’t get along that great.
I’m closer with my dad, I hate my mom. They don’t have a good relationship. My dad’s the stoic type, my mom is extremely angry and emotional. She would constantly have emotional outbursts as a kid, yelling and cursing, whereas my dad is more quiet, calm, and can have a proper conversation. It sounds like it would be a good contrast but it doesn’t work. They don’t spend any time together or have meaningful conversations.
I think one of the reasons they don’t like each other is because of me. I suspect my mom hated me because of how my dad treated me, and the relationship I have with him that I will never have with her, and that she possibly never had with him. I don’t know. She makes it very obvious that she favours my brothers over me, then acts like I’m the problem when I bring it up. She’s made my brothers her husband by proxy because I guess my dad is emotionally unavailable. This has actually been studied I just can’t recall the name right now.
I hope this answers what you’re looking for.
Edited cos I realize I didn’t fully answer OPs question.
I don’t love the term daddy’s girl, but I’m definitely closer to my dad. This is partially because, as a child and young adult, my dad was my protector. My mother spent most of my childhood screaming, yelling, and hitting. She was angry all the time it seemed and would throw screaming fits over something being spilled in her “nice clean kitchen” or if we asked too many questions. Being homeschooled by her was like trying to learn from a banshee. But when dad was home, she didn’t scream and yell. He tempered her anger and spoke softly. So I naturally bonded to him more. Eventually, they took parenting classes together and things improved but I was an older teen by the time that happened.
These days, my parents are in their 60s, still married. My mother is still loud and obnoxious, but she’s more measured now and genuinely cares about our well-being. Today she called to see how our new foster care placement was doing and make sure we didn’t need anything. I’m still closer to my dad though. We have the same personality. We have the same interests. When we are in a room together, I don’t feel on edge. I’ll be sad when my mom dies. I’ll be devastated when my dad does.
Closer with my mother haven’t spoken to or seen my dad in nearly ten years.
Closer to my dad growing up cause of an early divorce, and he was the “fun” parent (zero rules, it’s not a great way to raise a kid). Closer to my mom after high school. My dad’s codependency is suffocating, and he doesn’t know how to treat me like an adult. I’m almost 40 lol. Something about me transitioning out of childhood, he just couldn’t keep up and kind of stayed back there. Their relationship was civil, but they both badmouthed the other when I was young.
My mom, I talk to her almost every single day. We can yap for over an hour too
I’m closer to my mother.
Neither, no contact with both of them.
About equal for both. I’m not really closer to either parent more than the other.
Closer with my mom. Growing up I was closer with my dad (you know that quote… definitely accurate in my case), but he politically/socially shifted pretty intensely in one direction and loves to bring it up under the guise of “debate” which makes quality time pretty tough to achieve.
Used to be close to both, maybe more my mom? But they’ve become super toxic as they’ve aged, so right now, neither
I was closer to my dad when I was younger and now I’m closer to my mom!!
I’m very close with both my parents but personality wise I’m almost a carbon copy of my mom.
Closer with my mom 100%. I know people are weird about parents being “friends” with their kids, but we’re both adults now and we are certainly friends. My mom is my best friend, and I know we can rely on each other for anything. It’s a bond I cherish more than anything because she isn’t just my best friend, she literally created me and made me who I am. We have boundaries and share things within reason. But without a doubt, best friends.
I’m NC with my father. Fuck him.
Im very close with both of my parents but I’m closer with my dad. We just have a lot in common and a lot of similar interests so we bond a lot more. I still call both of my parents everyday though.
I’m closer to my mom just cause as we’ve gotten older we have more in common I guess. But I have a great relationship with my father (grew up a daddy’s girl). I talk on the phone to my mom basically everyday and my dad maybe once a week, but mostly cause I can’t find my mom. Lol sure he loves that but we have fun trying to figure out what she’s up too.
I am closer with both my dad and my stepdad than I am with my mom. We’ve never really had a great relationship. My mom cares too much about appearances and being the center of attention. She finds it hard to accept that she doesn’t need to know every detail of my life. And that she’s not the only person who wants my company.
Father!
Realtionship with my mother has never been easy.
I can’t stand my mother and my dad died when I was 10.
My mother for sure. I don’t talk about my feelings or any of life’s hardships with my dad. He doesn’t really know how to respond and usually says the wrong thing or nothing at all. My mom will also often say the wrong thing… but she tries. And she has gotten much better over the years so I continue to give her grace and try on my end too. After all, it is both of our first times living.
Closer with my dad, but I have a good relationship with my mom as well.
Daddy’s girl all the way. Me and my mother have reconciled quite a bit since I have become an adult, but she was a very belittling and angry parent to me growing up. She has since apologised, and I know she didn’t know any better at the time, but it caused me a lot of long term self esteem damage and internalized pain. My dad is a very laid back, easygoing guy, and he often mediated fights between me and my mother or helped me explain my side to her.
Close with both. To my dad I’ve always been daddy’s girl and I guess still am.
Parents had messy divorce when I was 6 and my dad had a lot of personal issues. They don’t communicate at all. I did distance myself for few years from my dad when I was young but he worked very hard to be back in my life and we rebuilt the relationship.
My mom never beat me, so she wins.
I was closer with my father. Mother and I remained at odds most of her life.
Neither.
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I adore both, but I’m closest to my mom. We talk every day and go on trips together. Dad is a wonderful man with whom I love spending time and talking to. It’s just Mom and I have become close friends in adulthood.
I’m not really close with either, but if I had to choose I guess I’d say I’m close to my mom. I live thousands of miles away and we don’t talk often.
My mother. Now as adults we have more in common but also she was just always my go-to parent. My father was mostly at work.
Daddy’s girl for sure. Both parents are absolute melts at the best of times my dad has a drinking problem but he’s very funny, charming and honest which means I can say absolutely anything to him sometimes we can argue but never lasts long and we laugh about it later. My mam I have to walk on eggshells around her she’s very sensitive and easily upset, so I bottle a lot of things up just to keep the peace then when I finally blow up I could get silent treatment for a few weeks, maybe months who knows. It’s very hard to deal with but I love them both equally. My mam and dad are separated but still civil, they would talk if they ran into each other, which is nice. 😊
My mom, she’s amazing. My dad is lucky that we aren’t No Contact. We are minimal contact. He is NC with my brother. The funny part is, HE is the one who disowns US regularly.
Closer to my Dad, and I barely speak to him either, but I’m no contact with my mum.
Their relationship was awful due to the fact they both preferred alcohol over each other.
I was a Daddy’s girl for a few years as a kid, he was the ‘safer’ parent but as an adult, I realise they were both awful.
My dad can give me car advise though.
my mom. i grew up a daddy’s girl up until my dad went to prison until i was 12, when he came out, our relationship wasn’t the same. my sister and i only saw him on weekends, he hardly contributed to our upbringing, expected us to talk to him first constantly. i became closer with my mom as she was always there, provided for us, and did what she could to make sure we were safe, healthy, and loved. she was and is always here for my sister and i through everything, and i couldn’t be more grateful for her
I was a major daddy’s girl. Spoiled rotten asf. I didn’t realize how much of a little sh!t I was to my mom until I was older. My dad’s rules were literally no dating while under his roof & make all A’s in school and I could have anything I wanted. Clothes, shoes, computers, etc. I was the baby of my siblings.
Unfortunately, my dad was taken from me when I was 19. I was unable to continue the father/daughter relationship into my adulthood. I did grow a much better relationship with my mom in my adulthood though so that’s a plus. She is literally my best friend.
always been closer with my dad, but these days it’s starting to be neither
I’m closer emotionally to my mom but enjoy spending with my dad a bit more. My parents get along great. I love the way they love one another. They’re celebrating 25 years of marriage later this year.
I’m closer with my mom, but I’m closer to my dad than my brother is.
Mom. She had primary custody of me after my parents divorced and later sole custody after my dad moved far away. I still live with her as an adult, and I love her. ❤️
My dad decided to more or less vanish from my life. The last time I even spoke with him was several years ago to make sure he was doing okay during COVID, and he had little interest in even just talking with me on the phone.
i’m a mama’s girl, lol. my dad is my dark narrative foil
I’m definitely closer with my dad, even though we only communicated by letters when I was a kid. I live near him now and we are extremely close. He’s always been supportive and encouraging. My mom was always critical and treated me like her emotional punching bag. I’ve done everything on my power to not be her with my own daughter.
Years before I would have said mom. Went through some really rough stuff in my marriage and it led to divorce. My parents talked me into living with them and my kids. Ever since I’d say I’m equally close to my parents. Have had really hard discussions and understand both parents more.
Was a former mothers girl until I was a teenager and saw how she really was , now I just dont have that connection with either 🤷♀️
I’m 42 and it switches all the time. My dad and I bond over NBA basketball, so when that’s in season we have a ton to talk about. We also go out for lunch, just the 2 of us, every other week.
I chit chat more with my mom. We’ll randomly text way more often. We like to shop together and do random errands.
I go to both for advice, but about different things. Or I inform both about decisions I’ve made.
Thankfully I’ve always had a good relationship with both of my parents.
Closer with my Mom. She’s my twin, love her. She’s like a part of my soul. I love my Dad as much, just don’t feel as close to him as when I was younger.