After trying for a long time, I’m finally pregnant with my first. This is my first Mother’s Day that I actually get to celebrate, which is a blessing because last year I was so broken hearted that we hadn’t been able to conceive by that point.
Was talking with MIL about Mother’s Day plans and I mentioned that I was excited to finally be able to celebrate, and she came back with “well, not REALLY. Not until next year.”
This may have been in response to me mentioning that my husband and I were considering doing something just the two of us that day and then driving to visit her another day this week (she lives two hours away). I honestly can’t remember if I had mentioned that to her or if I had just thought it. If I did, I understand why she may not have been happy about the idea.
It’s a small issue. I know she didn’t mean much by it, and it probably comes from her not wanting to feel forgotten about since both her sons are now married with babies on the way. I get that change is hard, but like. I don’t know. It just sort of sucked to hear. It felt very invalidating after everything my husband and I went through while trying to get pregnant.
Not looking for advice or anything. Just needed to vent.
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Girl, WHAT PART of you full on dedicating 99% of your physical and mental resources to growing a baby, who is ENTIRELY dependent on your body and your good choices (not smoking, managing stress, etc.) makes you not a mom yet?!?!
Happy first Mother’s Day!