I don’t know about you but I always thought that Mother’s Day and Father’s Day should be on the same day to appreciate them both and not have separate days to do that and the days are a month apart.
I don’t know about you but I always thought that Mother’s Day and Father’s Day should be on the same day to appreciate them both and not have separate days to do that and the days are a month apart.
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Nope. I like giving them each a day (at least) to celebrate them.
Why? So mom can put together an appreciation brunch for both of them and clean up after it’s all said and done while dad watches football and doesn’t lift a finger?
So… like a normal day?
Korea has “Parent’s Day”
That would be parents day, which exists.
Personally, I think we should have none of these days. Appreciate you’ve loved ones everyday. It is just a commercial event now.
You can appreciate your parents any day.
Absolutely not
Can’t have one without the other
If you have two separate parents why can’t they have two separate days to be celebrated? I’m not even a parent and I think each person should feel special on their day.
Nah my moms awesome my dad doesnt deserve fathers day
Ha ha ha ha. Oh man. It’s like some people have never met a woman.
You mean Mother’s Day and Single Mother’s Day. Right?
Why? Is is it that much trouble to buy a card on two different days?
What if your parents are divorced and live in seperate cities?
Why?
I don’t have a mom so I celebrate my dad on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day
That defeats the literal, defined purpose of each.
Children of single parent may be upset by this. Unless we renamed it to parent’s or something.
As a single mother I think I should also get Father’s Day.
Father’s Day should be during the school year. Kids make stuff for mom in class but dad gets forgotten in the summer.
This reads as a man whose tired of having to remember both days.
Fuck it. Let’s all celebrate our birthdays on the same day tok
I don’t know about moving the holiday for the sake of making it the same for everyone; but my husband and I usually just exchange gifts together on Mother’s Day.
Who needs a definitive holiday to tell you when you should appreciate the other person? Lol we just do it our own way. I don’t think it should be changed for everyone else, so yeah this is an unpopular opinion.
Edit: let me just simplify: “What works for one family will not work for many. Not a one-size fits all scenario”
No that defeats the whole purpose of having a mothers day and fathers day they both deserve their own day lol sounds kind of lazy to want it on the same day
This misunderstands the true purpose of Mothers Day and Fathers Day: to sell shit like cards and gifts. Your idea makes sense if it was actually about celebrating the people! They’re just consumer ‘holidays’ for selling things.
That doesn’t make sense
Nah not when the divorce rate is 50%. Now you’re having kids juggle the day between 2 parents which makes it stressful for everyone.
It should also be pointed out that at least traditionally (and it persists to this day) that mothers end up carrying more of the parenting load, so lumping them in with fathers takes away from celebrating their unique contribution. Oh that and actually carrying the child to term and giving birth and all that.
(I don’t have a stake in this, I’m not a parent)
I am guessing you haven’t thought of this from the parents perspective or at least those with younger kids. Usually on Mothers day or vise versa its the other parent doing extra work to make the day special since the kid can’t really do much themselves. If it was just parents day all it would end up just as a normal day for both the parents since there isn’t anyone around capable of making the day nice for them.
Anybody with divorced/seperated parents would hate this. Also it’s a single day for each of them, get a grip
I work most weekends and am one in six weekends off. I will visit my parents on that weekend in between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day.
When kids are really young, usually it’s just the other parent giving the gift. Can’t imagine what a 4 year old would do to celebrate both parents at once.
Makes it pretty hard to schedule special days for each other
It’s like saying you should celebrate your siblings’ birthday on your birthday.
The whole point is giving your mom a day that all about her. Then, giving your dad a day that’s all about him.
No. There’s already a parents day.
As a father to two kids (3 yo and 8 months) I agree but just for convenience. Then we could just get a sitter and go to dinner. We don’t have time to secretly plan and shower each other with gifts on separate days. We also don’t really get each other valentines or birthday gifts. Not a big priority. Having these separate days just creates expectations and anxieties I don’t have time for.
George would not like that plan (go to 1:13)
The purpose of holidays are to stimulate the economy.
lazy
I too believe my parents don’t deserve two days to celebrate everything they’ve done for me. /s
fuck outta here. how am I supposed to get to do absolutely nothing on my day when I’m stuck doing absolutely everything for my wife?
No way!!!
Dad here. When it’s Mother’s Day the kids and I run around and look after their mum. Most kids are too young to make it happen and need the other parent to get gifts, help make breakfast in bed and organise and pay for a meal out.
My wife does the same for me on Fathers Day.
If you lump them together no one has a great day in the same way
This makes absolutely no sense and your reasoning makes even less sense. The point of them being separate dates, with a month between, is so you can show each the appropriate amount of appreciation
Kids don’t do much on these days so it’s mostly the SO that does 90% of the work. If they were the same day literally nothing would happen.
I mean from a kid’s perspective, it might make sense to celebrate them both together.
But from the parent’s perspective, it’s better to have separate days so each parent gets a special day and often a day “off” from parenting.
It just doesn’t make sense to have them both the same day. Each parent should have their own day to be celebrated.
If you got Mother’s and Father’s day on the same day, it’ll just be Mother’s day.
Talk about a shitstorm for divorced parents who are trying to figure out who gets custody on that day.
I really don’t care about Father’s Day, but I like having a day dedicated to celebrating my wife, my mother, my mother-in-law, and my grandmother. They’re incredible people who have sacrificed so much for our families and deserve to be celebrated (every day but especially Mother’s Day).
I am not taking anything away from mothers on that day. I am fine having father’s day on a separate day
Dad drank himself to death and mom is an invalid I’m taking care of. I give no fucks anymore either way. 🤷♂️
But then big cargo short will have to compete with big jewelry for sales. They need separate holidays for those big cargo short sales.
Christmas, Easter and Remembrance Day should all be amalgamated and everyone should have the same birthday as each other.
Then our broke ass household needs to purchase two gifts at the same time instead of months apart.
Whoa whoa whoa. We can’t just combine two consumer holidays into one. Don’t you know how profits work? We need to guilt people into spending money on their families as many times a year as possible. And we can’t very well do that if you go combining them all, now can we? You know what, actually, let’s go ahead and combine all of them into one and just have one big ole Motherfathervalentinechristmas Day and call it good. How’s that sound, huh???? People only buying “sales” once a year? Is that what you want?? Communist!!
/s…… if it isn’t obvious…
Fuck that, most holidays are mostly planned by mothers as it is, can we have one where other people are at least supposed to plan it?
Edit-take my upvote because I hate this opinion
To paraphrase “I only think my parents deserve half as much appreciation.”
Definitely a shit idea. Upvote.
My parents are divorced so I’d be forced to choose between them, which I had to do my entire childhood
as a parent, I think both of those days just shouldn’t exist. they only exist to sell products.
The parents would never stand for combining their Hallmark holidays
Not sure what kind of jealous FOMO rhetoric this is but I sure as hell ain’t infringing on my wife’s day off lol
What the hell
In Japan, they effectively have 2 Valentine’s Days. On February 14, the girls give gifts to boys. Then on March 14 (White Day), the boys reciprocate with their own gifts for the girls.
Just goes to show that what should or shouldn’t be gender-split holidays is up to the culture.
Ok, everyone who has siblings, you now have to all celebrate your birthday on the same day. It’s the same basic celebration after all, why bother having 2, 3 or 4 parties for the same thing every year when you can have 1 & get it over with?
My mom wants to fight you.
No
My friend with a single mom always celebrated his mother twice – on Mother’s Day and on Father’s Day. Good solution to a perceived problem
So what if my parents are divorced and let’s say I’m on good enough terms with both of them to celebrate mother’s day and father’s day?
Couldn’t disagree more, well done, upvoted
As a child of divorce this would be completely fucking unworkable.
Well, my mom wants to get brunch and go plant shopping, and my dad wants to play golf. I guess one of them’s shit out of luck so OP doesn’t have to spend two separate days with his parents?
How about orphans? Do they get a ‘parents’ day as well?
Fathers day wouldn be a thing any more
So OP is a clearly a kid with parents that are still together and they want to lump the days together to free up their time. They do not see this through the lens of the parents that actually have to plan these days for the other parent.
Definitely unpopular. Have an upvote.
How tf we gonna give each other the day off on the same day?
Both are just commercial crap tbh. If I got a thank you or acknowledgement just once a year from my kids I think I’d be a failure as a parent.
They exist to stimulate our economy. We have “spending” holidays every month, so if they put them together, they’d need another one to replace it. They like to guilt us out of our money, and they’re good at it
It should be everyday
WHY DO WE HAVE TO DO THIS EVERY YEAR.
The point is to celebrate them individually, not together. (Also the days are more than a month apart in some places, they’re about four months apart in Australia)
If you’re in the United States or South Korea, there’s already a Parents’ Day where you can celebrate your parents on the same day.
This would probably be the end of Reddit. The servers wouldn’t be able to take the amount of posts from people saying they spent an entire day trying to make their partner happy and their partner just got them a McNugget or something
then it wouldn’t feel special. thats why they have their own days.
That would be really sad and awkward for divorced parents
Celebrating them both on the same day isn’t a huge logistical issue… unless of course, your parents happen to be divorced and don’t live near each other. Luckily no one is ever in that situation. /s
I don’t think they’re necessary as holidays. Shouldn’t “celebrate” them on specific days at all. It’s not hard to go hangout or have a call with your mom and dad every few months.
Then it would just be Parents day
People already don’t celebrate father’s day. You think it’d be any different if it shared a day with Mothers Day?
There’s already a problem with Father’s Day not being as well celebrated as Mother’s Day and now you want them to compete head to head?
You clearly haven’t personally experienced a divorce. Even as a child.
One day for Father’s Day and another for mother’s Day…if combined..one will definitely overtake the other and there will resentment
Great idea! We should set aside the same day a year to celebrate every birthday at the same time too. That way nobody gets to feel special about anything
I just know you give December birthday people their Christmas and birthday gift in one 😭
Throw Christmas in there too. Get all the family holidays bundled into one god awful day.
Mother’s Day was originally nothing to do with parents, it was a Sunday dedicated to visiting your “Mother Church“ where you would traditionally be baptised at your parent’s’ behest and attend until you moved elsewhere. Hallmark et al hijacked the idea and created Father’s Day as an extra sales opportunity.
I just don’t think I need a day in particular to appreciate my parents for what they’ve done.
But the days can be separate for those who find it important I just hate people trying to interchange them. Mother’s Day is for Mothers and Father’s Day is for Fathers. I wish people would stop trying to make it sound like we have to include everyone on every special day/holiday cause we really don’t.
I need to financially recover from each gift. Not to mention families that aren’t necessarily together but still celebrate either parent.
I don’t deny the validatity of this. I agree and actually think this is an excellent proposal. The two should be shifted to a Parents Day. The time of the “nuclear” family has long since past and has odd connotations in our modern world. If folks don’t want to combine the two together and wish for a continuation of Fathers Day and Mother’s Day… A. parents Day should be added.
This might also be unpopular, but how about neither exists? Your special day can be your birthday. Honestly, most holidays that don’t involve getting time off work aren’t something I look forward to. The only exception is probably Halloween.
Why don’t we just have every holiday on the same day. Just get it over with.
Why??
Why stop there? You have siblings well you get one birthday now!
Why do you think they need to be on the same day in order to appreciate them both?
I’d be fine with Parents Day. That would also cover people who raised children not born to them.
You should appreciate them every day of the year
Upvote. But OP should just admit to being cheap and/or lazy.
NOPE! I want a day off on Mother’s Day! If it’s also Father’s Day, who will watch our kids?!
I agree it should be called parents day
Since kids don’t really do anything and the opposite spouse has to I can’t see how this would work.
My son’s school does “parents day” for both days since a lot of kids aren’t from a “mom/dad” household.
Growing up as a kid “mothers day” was hard cause my mom dichted us. I would just make another card for my dad.
Upvoted because I hate it
some people like their parents though
Getting countries to agree what day either should fall on is hard, getting them to agree to put them on the same day would be even harder.
Except when you’ve got young kids it’s the other parent that has to do everything for mother’s/fathers day so in this case they’d both be busy on that day celebrating each other.
fuck no who’s gonna take these kids while I’m pretending I’m not a mom on mother’s day?
Your parents clearly have a real good marriage. My parents have been in the same room about 10 times since 1995 (excluding a courtroom).
Imagine if your parents decided “oh we’ll just celebrate all you kids birthdays on one day”. They’re separate so they each get a day so they are treated special as individuals.
Also imagine how much stress combining them would put on kids of divorced parents
Nope. That’s a bad take. Two separate days work
That’s like saying you should celebrate all of your family’s birthdays on the same day
Why??
In Korea there’s just Parent’s Day and Children’s Day
Yeah… no. Let me get one day to not have to cater to anyone. We’ll except this year since I started working again but still lol.
Yay I’ll just see my divorced parents on the same day
Parents day. Every day is parents day. Duh.
They would just turn into de facto Fathers Days. A lot (if not most) men don’t do any for the mothers of their children for Mothers Day anyway.
I’m with you on this one! Korea has a single day for parents. I hate Mother’s Day and Father’s Day separated.
Nah, my dad celebrated my mom (and his mom) on Mother’s Day and vice versa, they can’t do that if it’s on the same day! (Well they could, but it would feel more like a family oriented anniversary than a celebration of that role of parenthood)