Moved in with my Grandfather and all I do is mooch

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Moved in with my Grandfather after having an apartment with my cousin and crashed out saying I’m having mental issues. My grandfather let me and my dog move in with him and now all I do is sit on the couch watch tv and eat food. Anytime he’s home I get just wait for him to go to sleep so I can watch the shows I like. Never really lived with him so not sure what he’s into. I know he’s big on baseball and I attempt to connect by saying if sports team is playing and watch that so I know he’s into what is being watched. I also get in my head whenever he asks if I got clothes to wash and he washes them folds then. Feel like I cant go anywhere either because my dog freaks whenever I leave. He says all she does is cry whenever I leave which was once when I picked up food. Feel like I’m just biding time until an oltimatum is proposed. Do need to find a job but it feels backwards to try and work at heb because That’s where my cousin worked and I feel like I’m just devolving and rotting my brain.

Comments

  1. Substantial_Lab_8767 Avatar

    Yes, please get a job. You’re not doing yourself any favors by not working and saving money to move out. What can you do about your dog?

  2. No-Cheek-5893 Avatar

    Hey—the fact that you’re acknowledging the issue is great, I used to the feel the same since I felt pretty useless mostly taking up my Grandma’s space to watch TV and use her Netflix. However it did get better for me, since I took steps towards becoming more productive and grateful towards my grandma and I know you’ll also get better. This is just a phase 🙂 

    But on a side note—hopefully having the accountability of a job is beneficial

  3. Ok_Knee1216 Avatar

    Go work at an animal shelter. If you can’t, offer to volunteer until a job opens up. Make sure you can bring your dog.

    Also, consider getting a prescription for an Emotional Support Animal if you are having mental issues.

    When you get your own place, and they don’t accept pets, you can bring your ESA!

  4. Plastic-Dot2054 Avatar

    Please make sure you at least help your gramps with stuff around the house. Simple things, whatever you can do. Always offer to help. It’ll make you feel better too because you’re accomplishing something and not being useless. Don’t take your gramps for granted.

  5. FetchingOrso Avatar

    Try to get to know him and take your dog out with you.

  6. tochangetheprophecy Avatar

    Did you say he’s doing your laundry? Please set some goals for yourself like doing your own laundry, maybe cooking some meals for the two of you, that sort of thing.Â