Hi so I’m just going to briefly summarise what happened the other day and I wanna know if I’m overreacting or if I should be concerned. My boyfriend has a single parent mum and an older brother. She often goes out on nights out and when he was younger and comes back drunk. The other night we were laying in bed naked with a small blanket over us and his mum comes in at 1am really drunk and just lays on top of him while I’m there in bed and is like laying on his chest. My boyfriend was just talking to her for a bit and I was starting to get a bit uncomfortable by the situation cause I was naked and so he sort of asked her to go and she kept saying no and just laying on top of him and jokingly told me to shut up. He told her that we were both naked so he couldn’t help her up, but she insisted he got up and made her a tea, and she just said she would keep her eyes shut. There’s also other things like how they go into the bathroom when one is having a shower and are completely fine with it. I know that everyone’s families relationships are different and I’ve tried to just brush these things off but last night kinda weirded me out a lot and if I bring it up to him as I have before in a gentle way, he gets defensive and it feels like I’m just second place. I also asked him before how he would rank his future wife,mum and kid and he said he would put his mum first? Idk it kind of weirds me out but I don’t know if I’m just being judgemental. Please let me know and how I should go about this
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You guys are probably too young to be having sex. You could get pregnant and he might not want to be a dad yet. Plus you need to understand each other and build a friendship so that it’s a real relationship. You shouldn’t feel like you have to compete with his mom but she doesn’t seem to understand boundaries so it can only get worse from here. Either get to know him better by getting to know his mom better and kind of clear the air to find out whether or not he’s been sexually abused as a child or what’s going on there or why she gets drunk and comes in his room and invades his privacy and why he doesn’t mind or care about that or just stop having sex because you guys are still teenagers. Just back off sexually for now and learn a little bit more about his relationship with his mom before you get any further involved.