We haven’t spoken much at all the past few days because she’s been quite busy and spending a lot of time with her mom, (we don’t live with eachother) and yesterday something happened with her ear, i tried my best to comfort her through that but she had to go again and i didn’t hear off of her until the night, she fell asleep and had “fever dreams” and in response to that i offered multiple times to call because i know that’s something that comforts her a lot she denied, a few hours later she messaged me again about how she was going to go sit up to keep herself awake and i told her “it’s probably best to just accept the dreams” because she gets really unwell when she hasn’t sleep and i didn’t want her to feel any worse than she already was. She then proceeded to get very angry at me for saying that saying it was horrible and asking me to leave her alone because she doesn’t need me, i told her i didn’t want to leave her alone because we haven’t spoken in days and she starts saying that i’m guilt tripping her and trying to make her feel bad so i further explain myself saying i meant it like i didn’t want to stop speaking to her because we haven’t spoken much at all, she then says she didn’t want to call because i was on the game with friends (i wasnt) then moved on to saying there’s no point since the calls only last 30 minutes after she’s asleep (our last call lasted over 3 hours after before i put it down) she then said that i wouldn’t call her if i was feeling the same way she was, i said i don’t get comforted the same way she does and she said to stop trying to make her feel bad after that and kept calling me cruel and nasty. she stopped messaging after that around 4 and i went to sleep around 7 (it’s a bad habit but i’m just ignoring sleep schedules until just before uni starts) i woke up late around 3pm to see she’s unsent a message, i asked her what it was and she said it didn’t matter anymore and it was all sorted i asked what it was and she said she’d rather not say so i stopped pushing for an answer she tells me she’s going to be busy again today so i say “have lots of fun again today!” she says no i ask why she says she’d rather not say again then i said to atleast try and have some fun because she could and she says “whatever you say you know best” she doesn’t message me for about an hour saying she’s just finishing eating and she’s gonna try sleep so she says goodnight, i ask her what she’s had she tells me this time and i asked her why she was going to bed so early, she unsends all her messages and gets mad at me again for ignoring her goodnight i tell her i was just waiting for a response again before i said it and she just claims i was ignoring her, then she keeps saying i act like i hate her which really confuses me a lot because i don’t think i do and she says i act like im stuck with her , i trued my best to reassure her telling her i love her telling her i care about her but she’s still very upset with me i don’t really know what else to do
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Please, I beg you, learn how to end a sentence and use paragraphs. Also, maybe give her some space.
Hopefully soon you’ll realise this relationship is not good for you at all and end it. This is the epitome of terrible teenage relationship behaviour and the sooner she learns that noone sensible puts up with this shit and the sooner you learn not to put up with it the better.
Y’all are young. I don’t think you had any malice, however ” i told her “it’s probably best to just accept the dreams” because she gets really unwell when she hasn’t sleep and i didn’t want her to feel any worse than she already was.” This is like telling a depressed person to drink water. It’s going to come off as insensitive. I’d recommend going with “Is there anything I can do to help?”
There’s not much else you can do, to be honest. She seems to have overreacted. A lot of miscommunication and silent treatment is going on. You can only control yourself, though, so if she won’t budge and talk it out, I don’t know what you can do besides not be together.
It sounds like this is your last summer before university, maybe even your last summer together? Big changes breed big emotions. I hope you find a way to talk to each other. But try not to make promises you can’t keep.