So i have met this girl of mine almost 5 months ago and ever since we had a wonderful relationship, though from the start she wanted me to call her mommy especially when we had sex, and she also likes to be on top and in control (not only in bed but almost always), i was actually fine with this and enjoying it, its worth mentioning she is kind of a goth girl?
But anyway, we were French kissing the other day and suddenly out of nowhere she backs of, slaps me in the face so hard and leans forward to kiss my face and continue what we were doing, so i guess she is into bdsm stuff?
Idk man it was kinda hot but it also scared the shit out of me, so yeah i need some advice!
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Ewwwww…
Check any BDSM communities, because A) they will have more tailored advice and B) your gf needs to learn about consent. You cannot just slap your partner without agreeing to it ahead of time, that is an assault. I don’t care how kinky she is, consent is important there!
Without going into too much detail, my wife is like this. Not for the first 5 years of marriage but at some point she started discovering she likes to take charge. And I mean, like, REALLY take charge. All of what you’ve described and the kinds of things you’ll only find in the deep, dark corners of the internet.
I was never into that kind of thing until then. Partly because she’s so into it, it makes it hot to me. But also I think it’s because I’m the de facto “leader” of our family. I’m the primary breadwinner, I take care of paying the bills, I do most of the cooking and taking care of the kids and so on. So something about giving up control appeals to me I guess. Plus I’m a foot and a half taller than her, so suddenly being at her mercy is a wonderfully unusual sensation.
Point is, if you’re not dead set against it, maybe lean into it a bit. See if it’s something you might actually be into. Just be sure to set some guidelines as you work into it so she knows to go easy. My wife and I never really did that but we knew each other so well at that point it just happened naturally, but the one thing you don’t want is for her to suddenly do something you’re not prepared for.
I used to have a girlfriend that punched me when she orgasmed.
I thought it was cool until I found out she faked her orgasms…
Nothing is weird about wanting those things or finding them attractive, but she should communicate to you what she wants instead of randomly slapping you. You didnt consent to that.
Call her buddy