Me and my girlfriend have been together just over 2 months. Things have been going well — we see each other a lot and I’ve really been enjoying the relationship.
She’s leaving soon for a summer camp job in the U.S. and will be gone for around 3 months. She’ll miss my birthday and we won’t get to spend any of summer together before I start a year-long work placement.
I’ve tried to be supportive because I know it’s a big opportunity for her, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me. It feels like we’re skipping a really important bonding stage, and I’m left questioning how seriously she sees this. I’m not angry, I just feel unsure — especially with how early things still are.
TL;DR:
Girlfriend of 2 months is going abroad for 3 months just as our relationship is getting serious. She’ll miss my birthday and we’ll spend no summer together before I start work. I’m not mad — just unsure if it’s worth trying to keep this going or take it as a sign we’re in different places
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You are too young to be missing out on these types of opportunities friend. I understand you don’t feel valued as you’d hope but this isn’t a moment of grief. It’s a moment of exploration.
Why not try to figure out a way to better yourself during this time apart?
If you try to keep her away from this you may create a wedge more than anything.
That is rough indeed. Definitely talk to her about it, be open, tell her how it makes you feel and ask if she is down to do daily calls. Something that will keep the fun and spark going. You could do facetime dinner dates sometimes. Three months of long distance is doable if both of you do your best.