Soo.. my boyfriend of almost a year has these friends of his best friends, we’ll call them K & N, both female.
I remember a couple months ago when we met up with N & B (B is her bf), my boyfriend went up to her and was like “hey baby!” and dabbed her up. It honestly bugged me a little but i chalked it up to maybe that’s just how he’s always greeted her & moved on.
Then last weekend me & my Bf went to a lil party with a couple people and K & F (F is her bf). And i remember at one point he was passing a vape back to K and under his breath kinda said something that sounded like “thanks babe”.
Anyways party ended, got back my Bf apartment & i asked him like what’s his deal with calling other girls babe or baby. and he was just looking VERY confused and was like “what? i only call you that” and we just went back & forth for a while, he said some kinda hurtful things but the main issue that bugged me was him admitting he used to like N (he also used to like K). so i blew up and was like “oh. ok. so what? i’m your third choice? cuz your first two choices didn’t want u?” anyways.. whatever moving on. essentially he has no idea what im talking about and “didn’t do that”.
Terrible convo, didn’t go well. Talked about it again when we were sober & i still feel so hurt. I genuinely don’t know how i’m supposed to move forward from this and stop feeling so sad about it. i feel like i kinda just don’t trust him anymore. I really need advice or even just to talk this out.
TLDR: bf called two girls he used to like babe and baby, but doesn’t remember at all & now i don’t know how to move past this.
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Well first and foremost I’m going to tell you that if you did do that he lacks major respect for you like clearly obviously he would lack respect if you did it behind your back but damn right in front of you now let’s just say for instance you did here and saw exactly what you assume you did then he’s gaslighting the hell out of you when you tried to have the conversation sober and not now am I honest opinion the fact that you were invited around these people and didn’t have the full back story personally that would be an issue for me because of my significant other decided to invite me out knowing that their past crushes or situation ships were going to be present at the event I would feel that they had me looking a little stupid, personally. I can definitely understand why the trust is fading but one thing I am coming to tell myself more and more in a relationships when I meet people is that if you wouldn’t do it to them, run. People would treat you how you allow them to treat you.
If he genuinely doesn’t remember, it’s probably because he didn’t notice and doesn’t care.
To be perfectly honest, you sound pretty insecure. Maybe ask yourself if you often like this in other relationships or if there is something more substantial in the dynamic that has you feeling threatened by a pretty minor issue.