My best friend told me back then that he used to like me, but at the time I was fresh out of a relationship and I wasn’t in any position to reciprocate any of that. At that point, I was willing to hook up with him casually and I made jokes that it could end our friendship, and he was hurt by the fact that I would so willingly joke about tossing him aside like that that it apparently contributed to him losing his feelings.
He did say there are a lot more reasons aside from that, but I can’t help but feel played somewhat. This conversation happened about half a year ago, but recently I began to develop feelings for him. Really seriously.
Anyway, after that conversation about him ‘not liking me anymore’, he still continued to treat me as though we were dating. We’d go out, he’d hold the door for me, he’d lean on me, he’d always walk be home.
He cuddles me. We sleep together on the same bed. And recently, he held my hand while he did.
But throughout doing all of this, he’d also talk about being into other people.
It was very confusing. And as my feelings grew, so did my hurt whenever he’d talk about other people he found attractive or exes that he missed. So I decided I’d talk to him and just confess. I hoped that maybe he had changed his mind.
So I did. I told him I love him. And he told me that he didn’t feel the same way. And when I asked him what the cuddling and the holding of hands meant, he said it wasn’t really anything to him. It meant ‘something’ just not what I wanted to, is what he said.
It really pissed me off. I told him I don’t understand how someone could be so desensitized to all sorts of romantic interaction.
I don’t even care if he doesn’t want to date. What bothers me is how easily he could brush off all these things that meant so much to me and just see it as ‘friendly’ or ‘casual’.
Am I right to be angry? Is it time to just end this friendship for good?
TLDR: best friend used to like me but he stopped for many different reasons, yet he started treating me like his gf and i developed feelings for him. When I confessed, he claimed that his actions didn’t really mean much to him. I am really mad about this. Do I just end the friendship?