Hi. We have been dating for two years . When we initially started dating, I was a virgin so we waited 9 months to have actual penetrative sex. However in the last few months I get the feeling that he’s not interested as much in it. We used to have sex everyday and if we were living in for a period : every other day. Now I do not need to have sex everyday, but I would like to engage in some sort of sexual activity daily unless I am too tired or we are fighting. Note that my urge to participate in the same is mostly a mental urge and I rarely ever physically want to.
Lately he has not been much touchy with me. According to him, his ADHD also prevents him from being too cuddly in general outside of sex. I just feel so ugly because the dynamic has shifted from me being craved after to now I honestly wait on him.I do not feel like he actually wants to do it , but that he is doing it just for me. He has been having some thyroid issues, and he found out he is suffering from low testosterone as well and suffered from ED a few times.
No, I have not put on extra weight and I do not think he is cheating. We share locations, have access to each other’s phones and I could not find a second phone either.
The relationship is not perfect but I will feel terrible if I leave him because of something that is outside his control.I also am pretty financially dependent on him ( yes I do work part time and I am going to school full time for engineering). More than anything else I am emotionally really attached to him too. I am stuck feeling unhappy about this and it is starting to degrade my self esteem.I feel like a withered flower.
TLDR: Boyfriend does not want to intimate as often, what can I do for my mental sanity