Hi, me 21f and bf 21m has been together for 1 year and 3 months. before whenever we argue, we tend to talk things out and cannot go on a day without talking to each other. we rarely fight anymore but when we do, it’s kinda heavy.
now, we recently fought that resulted him to not talking to me for 9 days. the fight was due to something that he did that made me uncomfortable). to be fair, he already got a job on a restaurant which results him to get tired when he gets home and only to wakeup to just go to work again. i am trying to understand that that couldve been the biggest reason why he managed to not talk to me abt the problem for 9 days.. we ended up talking to each other because he misses me. til now we still havent talked about that problem and it has been 1 week. im trying to understand because maybe we could talk about it when we’re both ready. now the important thing for me is that we still love each other despite
last night he brought up another problem in which something that i did that made him uncomfortable but it was unintentional on my part and now i am afraid that im gonna get stonewalled again. i am having an anxiety whenever i am getting the silent treatment due to past experiences.. i love my boyfriend and i wanna talk to him about this, how could i do that? what kind of approach do i need to do for me to communicate it to him?
TL;DR: my bf 21f has a habit of stonewalling me and im getting hurt about it. how can we fix this problem?
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Honestly I’d dump this guy and tell him to get therapy. You are too young to be trying to fix this. I was expecting like ignoring you for a few hours until he calms down but 9 DAYS. That is ridiculous.