TL;DR
My 25 year old bf who is full time employed has no plans to move out at all and it makes me feel like im dating a teenager. He doesnt think that is important, sees no benefit in doing so alone or with me, and on top of that makes me feel stupid for wanting him to move out soon or move out with me in two years. He gets extremely defensive when me or my family bring the topic up. We have been together for two years.
Is it valid for me to feel this way? How to approach the topic so he’d be more open to discussing it? Or is it not worth to try anything?
My bf is 25, employed full time, with an above average income and still lives with his parents. Which wouldnt be much of an issue, if we had even an ounce of privacy in his home. But we dont. The house is small, doors always open, we can never be truly alone and its making me go crazy. My home situation is slightly better, but im still not satisfied.
He doesnt see the lack of privacy as an issue, nor does he have an issue with us seeing eachother only two times a week.
The fact that he doesnt plan on moving out wouldnt bother me if he was actually mature about the topic. Instead, he claims he has no reason to move out, hes got everything he needs, lack of privacy isnt a reason to move out etc… He makes me feel stupid for wanting to move out together someday in the near future, he doesnt understand why.
The men in my family are baffled that he still lives at home, and when i told him they asked when is he moving out he got extremely mad and told me that i nor my family should not to get involved in his life because his life is his. Which i get, but why get mad at a question? He started going on about what he has made of himself, that hes employed bla bla bla… just because my family asked him if he’s gonna move out soon. He says that my family is obsessed with the topic of moving out and that we are weird.
His only plans are about his family and their home. He has zero plans for himself or our relationship and its making me resent him. How do i deal with this resentment? Am i expecting too much from him? Will our relationship ever even progress or should i expect to be stuck with visiting eachothers home’s like teens until i get sick of it and eventually leave.
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Move out to a studio or get a roommate and let him only come over one day a week. Chances are you won’t want to move out with him before he lives on his own, because I’d bet his mom does most of his household chores for him.
he does not see a future with you. sorry to say