EDIT: also, its not just dates, movie nights, hes here. Going to the mall, hes there, where is he not.
Ok, how we got into this predicament in the first place, is that my boyfriend just really likes his friend (Liam) he’s like a brother to him, he saved his life once, etc. But he’s on ALL our dates.
I even brought one of my single friends on a date (so we could double) and Liam and her don’t date, so that failed. I’ve honestly asked my BF “why Liam is on our dates“ and he says that Liam is, lonely, has nobody else, and he has NO SIBLINGS or girlfriend.
but then my boyfriend kind of guilts me because (I know this sounds awful) Liam is the fucking package for guilt! His Mom died when he was young, then his Dad and him don’t talk anymore, so Liam just doesn’t have anyone else to talk to.
I honestly think my boyfriend is guilt tripping me, and I don’t think I can do this relationship anymore. If nothing changes I’m leaving, this has gone on for 3 months.
Like, sure, I feel bad For Liam, but I don’t really know him, and its not my problem.
TL;DR my boyfriend keeps bringing his friend on our dates, and basically guilt trips me into not kicking his friend out.
also, I know this sounds made up, I still can’t believe it, but it is very much real. And I basically just need validation that its ok to break up with my boyfriend over this (the whole post).
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It’s OK to break up. You didn’t sign up to be the third wheel in your own relationship. He can spend as much time with Liam as he wants as a single dude.
Its okay to break up with your boyfriend about this.
Egads. let them have each other!
Him being lonely is not a reason to bring him on a romantic date. He needs to make friends.
Bow out. We all know he already has a shoulder to cry on!
It’s okay to break up with your boyfriend. His boyfriend will comfort him.
It depends on how much you like/love your boyfriend.
If you truly love him, then maybe try to have a good/hard conversation with him about it.
If you have already checked out mentally, they just end it.
Girl I can’t believe you’ve lasted 3 months with this. Go find a nice young man who wants to take you on a date without his homeboy sitting there being an awkward 3rd wheel at all times.
Break up with him. You’re the third wheel in your own relationship.