We have been together for 3 years and live together. At the beginning of the year I ended up back in hospital and was discharged early in March so I’ve been home for a little under a month but ever since I’ve been back we haven’t had sex. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just seems to get agitated when I bring it up he is still willing to do other things to make sure I am happy but it isn’t the same I can tell he isn’t excited and even if I try to do something just for him he stops me. I asked him if he was cheating on me and that just made him more upset and I really don’t think he is I feel bad about saying it cause I didn’t believe it and I could tell he was hurt by it. It just seems like he doesn’t want me like I don’t get him excited anymore. I feel like he is slipping away. If there is something he wants I’d be happy to do it but if he won’t talk to me I can’t fix it. He knows I couldn’t have cheated on him while I was away and everything that used to get him in the mood before just seems to make him mad now. If anyone has any ideas or has ever been through something like this anything would be helpful.
TL;DR my boyfriend has become distant and isn’t interested in sex anymore.
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How did you try talking to him? Was it in the middle of intimacy, or at another emotionally charged time? Have you tried talking to him at a neutral time, when you are both calm and not distracted? You might say, “Hey, I’ve noticed that things have been different between us since I got out of the hospital. Can you tell me more about what you’ve been thinking and feeling recently?”