I am kind of spooked by this and I think I fcked up. This girl and I grew up together and I always thought she was my soulmate. I would give anything you go back in time and actually make things work. We dated 3 years ago and during this time, she slept either another guy and got pregnant.
We stopped talking completely and she kept trying to contact me, but I completely dissociated with her. A couple weeks ago I bought my first home (small and humble but it’s mine) and finally I have been doing super well.
Her mother is amazing friends with mine so she came over to help me settle down and clean up the house. I am proud of what I worked for and to my surprise, the last time my mother and her mother came over for dinner she tagged along. I was kind of happy, but also hurt to see her face again.
We talked a bit and since I last saw her I got a bunch of tattoos. She started touching me and asking to see all my mew pieces and asked if she could see the ones under my shirt too. I think this was just her excuse to touch me and we both got kind of in the mood for it and before I actually got to putting it in her, I asked if she had any condoms and she said no, but she was on birth control (some sort of injection).
We had a good time and after that incident we started hanging out again and she comes over to help me around the house a bit. We kept the sex going and the last time we fucked she was dirty talking and she said something along the lines of “please cum inside me I really want to have your baby”.
Afterwards I asked why she said that and I thought she was on birth control. She got nervous and told me she was and that she was just really into the moment. Now I am kind of scared because what if I have a kid??? How do I find out if she actually is on Birth control?
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How long ago did you have sex? If it was recent, you can suggest that she takes Plan B.
Moving forward, I would suggest you don’t have unprotected sex with a person who you believe may be lying about their birth control situation.
Use condoms, EVERY time! Don’t ever depend on someone else for birth control!
Ugh, dude. The only one you can actually trust to protect you from unwanted pregnancy is you. There is no online database of girls who are on birth control, and I doubt your ex is gonna furnish you with her medical records.
Wear a condom for every single casual encounter. And lots of the serious, committed ones. I just hope you don’t have to learn that lesson via an eighteen year coparenting relationship with an ex.
Why would you trust her on something so important? Time to wise up and protect all you’ve achieved! No more unprotected sex unless you’re ready for a child.
Oldest trick in the book my man.
You playing with fire. Pull out at least
She’s a single mom looking for support.
She’s an ex. Move on and live your best life.
Flash your house and shell flash her vag, was that not the point of your story?
Breeding fetish. You put your d in crazy.
Sounds like you should stop sleeping with her unless you’re willing to be baby trapped.
She cheated on you. Love yourself more than this.
You’re a grown adult. You know unprotected sex leads to pregnancy and STD’s. Why would you believe her that she was on birth control (which doesn’t matter anyway you should always use a condom) when she cheated on you before? She has a history of lying to you. You’re stupid. Cut this toxic relationship off.
if you are not ready to have a child, you ALWAYS wear a condom no matter what birth control the woman says she’s on. Every time. Because bottom line, you can NOT find out the truth about whether or not she is on or using something.
You can afford a house at 22 but not condoms? Yikes. You knew exactly what you were doing, not one ounce of sympathy for you.
Wasn’t this posted like a week ago? Fetish post or what?
Having sex with a cheating ex who is a single mom may be the dumbest thing you’ve ever done.
Dude… my partner and I doubled up on birth control for six years until we knew for a fact we were ready for a baby. Do the math, and don’t have sex without a condom!
Bro she already cheated on you. What makes you think something has changed? Now she wants to baby trap you, poor choices dude.
Lmao….you’re being baby trapped by your mother, her mother and the cum dumpster. You’re gonna be paying through the nose for child support.
She’s not your soul mate. She’s just very smart
Right okay, ignoring the cheating, some people do actually get turned on by thoughts of impregnation. So it may be that? Obviously if she’s got an injection she can’t prove much to show she is on birth control. If it’s an implant in the arm you can feel it if you poke around a bit but it’ll be very obvious that’s what you’re looking for if you start doing that.
Just ask, and be very brutal with her, say you don’t want a child right now, especially not with her. And if you do shag her again, use a condom.
Sooo she lied to you (ie cheated on you) before and you seriously think you can trust her and that she isn’t lying to you again?
At times I refuse to believe people are this stupid.
Stay away from her she’s trying to baby trap you. She wants your home and money. Stay away from
Dude. I don’t want to put mildly but you are fucked. You fell for it.
You’ll find out in about nine months. This all seems planned, honestly. You’re an ex with your own house, and she’s a single teen mom who used to date you. She wants your home and a baby daddy, and you’re being very foolish here, OP.
How about you use a condom! Or not have sex for a while.
You’re not going to be able confirm if she’s on birth control or not
Oh my goodness, you poor dumb thing. Rule of thumb: don’t fuck the ex.
if she is lying, that’s insanely fucked up. But also, birth control is your responsibility too and you should absolutely never have unprotected sex with people you don’t trust. I wouldn’t have sex with people I don’t trust in general, but definitely not without a condom.
The thing is you can never know for sure if she is on BC. I would say that if you really truly think that she might pull something like that, never speak to her again.
SHE CHEATED ON YOU and you let her back in? If you have milk that spoils, and you put it in the fridge for later- when you take it out, it’s still spoiled.
Toss it, it doesn’t “unspoil”.
Dude. You had sex with a person without taking precautions based on trusting that she’s on birth control. And this person is so trustworthy she cheated on you.
You’re accountable for your own reproduction. Carry condoms with spermicide and use them every time. Doesn’t matter if she says she’s on BC.
Dude, you are beyond trusting; you’re naive. Don’t give her another chance to screw you over. She’s already working on that by expecting you to raise the kid she got by cheating on you.
Just stop. Get tested. Pray for the next couple of months. And if she turns up pregnant, demand a paternity test.
Why on gods green earth are you asking any woman, in YOUR house if she has condoms for a penis she does not have?? It is YOUR house, YOUR penis, YOUR responsibility. Stop expecting women to carry the burden of responsibility for your penis and your ejaculation. If you can’t even be bothered to have condoms for YOUR penis then you’re definitely not responsible enough to be having sex let alone the inevitable pregnancy due to your irresponsible sperm management.
Women can very easily lie about birth control, that’s how someone I know ended up with a child. His abusive ex is unfortunately using the child as a weapon to make everyone miserable, including the child.
Bring condoms with you, or learn to say no if there isn’t one, no matter how alluring the idea is. This is a recipe for disaster.
This sounds like something you want to cut off ASAP, OP! She is going to be one pricey piece of decor to get rid of. And that’s if you DON’T get her pregnant.
Wrap ya dumb azz diq up!
Hard to tell if she’s actually on birth control. But when she baby traps you and is pregnant you can be pretty sure she isn’t.
Sounds like you should not be with her. Don’t let someone you really don’t want to be with long term lure you in. There is always the possibility of a baby, and the more time you spend with her the less time you’ll be looking for your lifemate.
She’s already shown you once who she really is, why don’t you believe her? She’s shopping for a home you have one do the math. If she comes up pregnant demand a paternity test cause she’s not exactly trustworthy.
Sounds manipulative. Like she’s all of a sudden all up on you hot and heavy. Im wondering if sex is a tool to land you… really to tap into what you got… what she can have. IDK. Is she like that?
How well do you know her? Is it out of character for her to get really into sex and say things like that?
My wife once got really into sex and decided to say something that threw me off. She could genuinely be telling the truth.
Ask to see proof she is on birth control. If it’s an injection, there should be a medical record.
Use your own condoms, every time. And understand that if you aren’t sterilized and decide to stick it in someone – you risk pregnancy. Birth control fails and people lie.
Also – trusting someone who cheated on you in the past, got pregnant, and wormed her way back into your life to be truthful about birth control is wild man.
Sounds like she is trying to baby trap you with your life getting better and you being the safe option to take care of her and the baby.
There’s always a third option if she baby trapped you, pay alimony, be there for your child and kick her out
Well, when you get her pregnant, now your money from the new job will have purpose and the new house will be fully occupied.
Please think with your upper head not just your lower one.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN BIRTH CONTROL!! If you have a kid, then you get to be a daddy from now until you are dead. It was really reckless of you to trust her and not protect yourself. It is insane to risk a pregnancy and bringing an innocent person into this world;.
Hopefully moving forward you will know better than to go raw with someone when you’re not ready for kids and you don’t even seem to be in an exclusive sitch. You don’t wanna be catching babies or STIs, my dude. Be smart. Glove up, always.
I mean, this is a common line for fetish/dirty talk, but you should also be more careful
The injection would be the depo shot (which is currently in a lawsuit for being linked with brain tumors). I don’t know how you would actually know without her showing you medical proof. Get plan B and wrap it up in the future. The only birth controls I can think of that you could verify in a given moment are like Nexplanon (a stick implanted in the under part of the upper-arm). Someone who didn’t care about your literal health (STIs) won’t care about lying to you about birth control and other things. I’m amazed you continued sex when she said that LOL
She see’s your little kingdom and wants in.
Lmao believing a woman you’re having a fling with that she is on birth control is top tier idiocy. She sees you being all successful and she wants what you worked for. SHE CHEATED ON YOU! And, what, suddenly she is honest? Brutha, run like hell right now and if not, you deserve every single bit of that trap about to close.